Yeah, that's kind of what I thought too with my engineer guy. I guess I'll just wait and see....Like you, I don't want to be the pursuer. It seems like lots of guys stop by and view my profile, but no message or a smiley face or anything???
I just deleted my okcupid profile (free site) and boy were there some "winners" on there.
I'll just keep living my life and we'll see who shows up!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Funny - I've had the best luck on OKCupid so far! Coffee date guy was from there, oh-so-handsome-and-clever 27 year old is from there. (Who, speaking of which, just contacted me He's been gone home for Xmas and I hadn't heard from him since the 23rd - I was starting to think he'd had his fun with me. Then he contacts me tonight - his grandpa died and the house has been full of relatives in for the funeral etc - just winding down.)
I'm on Match too and I thought perhaps since it was a paid site there would be a better quality of guys there, but I'm not thinking I see any real difference - in fact I see a lot of the same guys on both.
I'm on a site called Fitness Singles since I am so active and want to (finally) be with someone who is active as well. The quality of men on there seems to be a cut above the rest.
The engineer guy emailed me right back, but I haven't read it yet. We'll see what he has to say.
I just bought a book for dating online at midlife, so I'll share any secrets I find with everyone!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
UGH!!!! Okay, so supposedly the 27 year old was coming back to LA on the 10th - at least that's what he'd told me last month. I haven't heard from him since the 4th - wasn't really expecting to hear from him until his return. Given how terrible his cell coverage has been at his folks, I thought it was pretty good that we'd managed two chats while he was there.
So, anyway - when I didn't hear from him on the 10th or the 11th I didn't think much of it - with all the weather and flight delays, I figured maybe his return flight had gotten pushed out. No biggie. And truthfully, I was still expecting a 50/50 chance he'd chicken out of this whole deal anyway.
Sent him a short email yesterday - and it bounces back as undeliverable!
I was prepared for the likelihood of him chickening out of meeting me - it IS weird. But I totally didn't see THIS coming - just closing his email addie without a word??? He seemed so happy to chat with me last week - he was all smiles on our video chat.
I'm feeling just - stupid - right now. I really thought I was better at reading people than this.
I guess I'll just wait and see....Like you, I don't want to be the pursuer. It seems like lots of guys stop by and view my profile, but no message or a smiley face or anything???
He's been gone home for Xmas and I hadn't heard from him since the 23rd - I was starting to think he'd had his fun with me. Then he contacts me tonight - his grandpa died and the house has been full of relatives in for the funeral etc - just winding down.)