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If she is beyond done, why does she give a sh*t. Why is she asking about your job, where your living, finances, etc. etc?

Maybe I am not caught up on your sitch, but why do these things affect her, if she is done?

What would they matter to her?


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Funny story about my day today...

Went skiing today and after a day of skiing in the trees, my buddy and I get back to my car. I reach into the pocket where I had my keys and the pocket was unzipped, and NO KEYS!!! Well, here I am in the mountains 1 1/2 hours from home stuck in the parking lot and my buddy supposed to be picking up his W and 2D at the airport in 2 hours!

I can't tell you how panicked I was thinking about how this was going to be received by my W and not to mention, how the hell were we getting back to Denver and then, how the hell was I getting back up there to get my car.

After walking all the way back to the base of the mtn., and checking with security, lost and found and a few other places, I went to the base lift which I had ridden up after lunch. They didn't have the keys, but they were able to call over to the other lift where I had been skiing all day and miraculously, they had my keys!!! Thank god there was no new powder and that somehow, they must have ended up on a main trail instead of in the trees where I spent most of the day...I wish I knew who turned them in.

I almost peed my pants I was so happy! I went from thinking to myself, when is all the bad going to end, and then...

Could this be a sign that my luck is changing??

B.I.T.S.


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Because she is basically supporting me.


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Ok, gotcha. It gets hard remembering every sitch, we kind of blend together sometimes.


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Originally Posted By: lostinscared
Are you guys crazy??? Just twist the knife...

We need survival songs...


Survival?? How about Eye of the Tiger by Survivor?

Risin' up, back on the street
Did my time, took my chances
Went the distance, now I'm back on my feet
Just a man and his will to survive

So many times, it happens too fast
You change your passion for glory
Don't lose your grip on the dreams of the past
You must fight just to keep them alive

Chorus:
It's the eye of the tiger, it's the cream of the fight
Risin' up to the challenge of our rival
And the last known survivor stalks his prey in the night
And he's watchin' us all in the eye of the tiger

Face to face, out in the heat
Hangin' tough, stayin' hungry
They stack the odds 'til we take to the street
For we kill with the skill to survive

chorus

Risin' up, straight to the top
Have the guts, got the glory
Went the distance, now I'm not gonna stop
Just a man and his will to survive

chorus

The eye of the tiger (repeats out)...


Now seriously my song right now is WAITING FOR THE END by Linkin Park. I like the melody, and have always liked how LP mixes genres.

This is not the end
This is not the beginning
Just a voice like a riot
Rocking every revision
But you listen to the tone
And the violent rhythm
Though the words sound steady
Something emptys within em

We say yeah

With fists flying up in the air
Like we’re holding onto something that’s invisible there
Cuz we’re living at the mercy of the pain and the fear
Until we dead it forget it
Let it all disappear

Waiting for the end to come
Wishing I had strenght to stand
This is not what I had planned
It’s out of my control

Flying at the speed of light
Thoughts were spinning in my head
So many things were left unsaid
It’s hard to let you go

I know what it takes to move on
I know how it feels to lie
All I wanna do is trade this life for something new
Holding on to what I haven’t got

Sitting in an empty room
Trying to forget the past
This was never meant to last
I wish it wasn’t so

What was left when that fire was gone
I thought it felt right but that right was wrong
All caught up in the eye of the storm
And trying to figure out what it’s like moving on

And I don’t even know what kind of things I said
My mouth kept moving and my mind went dead
Picking up those pieces now where to begin
The hardest part of ending is starting again

All I wanna do is trade this life for something new
Holding on to what I haven’t got

This is not the end
This is not the beginning
Just a voice like a riot
Rocking every revision
But you listen to the tone
And the violent rhythm
Though the words sound steady
Something emptys within em

We say yeah

With fists flying up in the air
Like we’re holding onto something that’s invisible there
Cuz we’re living at the mercy of the pain and the fear
Until we dead it forget it
Let it all disappear


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I agree. When a woman/men are done they are done! They don't care about what you eat where you sleep they don't care about anything! I think you'll start to see positives when you get that job not only in the way she views you but in your own esteem. Be happy because today you get another chance to make a difference


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I agree too with the others that if she were DONE done, she wouldn't be asking at all.

I understand that she's supporting you but does she have to? If she didn't care at all, she would literally kick you to the curb.

You still have a little hope there, man. Keep DBing!!!


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I wish that I could agree with you guys. The interest that she is showing is not in the sense that she is looking for any type of discussion regarding the topics. She is just setting things up for her ultimate play, starting the D. Her approach is not in a kind and curious manner. It is matter of fact and with absolutely no emotion behind it. There is no caring in her tone of voice, facial expressions or anything of the sort. If there was any hope, would there not be even the smallest signs of her having any real interest in what was going on with me? She just wants to know when she can end this. She talks AT me with a condescending attitude. All I can do is answer her in a manner that is not going to be confrontational. I have no real opportunities to do any DBing. I feel like a huge doormat and what choice do I have? If there was only even the smallest glimmer of hope, I sure have no idea where to find it and what it could possibly be at this point.

My W and MIL took my kids to church yesterday. In the 12+ years I have been together with her, she has never gone to church. I don't know what to think of it. I am not against it per se, but I was raised Jewish and we have never brought religion into our family. Not sure if I should approach the topic with my W. My girls are the ones who told me they went. My MIL doesn't even go, so I find it really odd.


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Moderators, can something please be done about Denver and his posts? he posted to my thread last night, it shows up almost 24 hopurs later and bumps my thread all the way to page 5.


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Hmmmm, your first paragraph talks about not even a glimmer of hope.

Your second paragraph looks to be the opposite to me.

I would suggest you keep the church thing to yourself. Maybe it is something she feels she needs to do for herself.

Why is she going now? Who knows, but I sure can't see anything wrong with it. He does work in mysterious ways I hear.


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