The Lies and Deception Killing Me

[25yearsmlc]

ouch...sorry

(( hugs ))

[abbey1989]

Hi,

One of the things I love about this forum is book recommendations. Think I'll pick up that book "Not Just Friends" this weekend.

OK I'm going to come clean with you guys about something I did last weekend when H was away. When he was out on his motorcycle trip, I took the "secret cell phone charger" out of his car and cut some of the wires thinking that would stall some communications with OW. So last night, S20 was back in town and I needed to move H's truck so son could get out. I looked in his center console and wouldn't you know it.....McGyver had the secret cell phone charger all taped up with electrical tape. I guess I didn't do a very good job. Then last year....we were at a friend's house for a backyard fire and cocktails, we drove separately, and I left early.....saw that the secret cell phone charger was actually plugged into his console.... I grabbed it, drove a bit out of the way....and launched it out the window. Made me feel so good! But he then obviously bought a new one.

So...my acts of sabotage were ridiculous, but made me feel good for a few seconds anyway.

I told H this a.m. that I wanted to get out of town this weekend. It's the start of summer! I don't want to deal with his "Oh....I'm just going on a bike ride" stuff tomorrow morning....as usual....and "Oh....I want to ride my motorcycle....won't be long...be back soon."

He said...."you should get away". Uh huh. Right.
I said...."we should ALL get away". So then, he warmed up to the idea of a little overnight trip tomorrow....destination unknown at this point. But not until after he "rides his bike". I told him that we could totally work the bike ride into our little mini-vaca. Then he came up with another excuse to ride in a.m.

Hope you all have a nice holiday weekend.

xo, A.

[abbey1989]

Really, Abbey, you're worth so much more than this. Your husband won't begin respecting you until YOU do.

Starsky

Good advice...thank you. I think about this often....

[Starsky309]

Really, Abbey, you're worth so much more than this. Your husband won't begin respecting you until YOU do.

Starsky

Good advice...thank you. I think about this often....

I know, but you don't actually DO anything about it, Abbey. That's my point.


Starsky

[AJM80]

Ummm Abbey, your passive-aggressive sabotage could be why he recycled your birthday card and doing more Free Balling Mondays? (well, that and because he's being a jerk and cheating)

I do think you took a step back - it's not like someone else is going to mess with his charger or he's not going to notice that it's suddenly been chopped, right?

Regroup, woman! You're tougher than that and were seeing some good things happening.

[AJM80]

PS - I'm guilty of texting/calling my H too much. It's hard and we all have these times when we vent out.

[abbey1989]

Hi,

Just checking in. Nothing much new other than H has little or no interest lately in ML. He left on usual bike ride this a.m. around 7:30. I had a dream just before waking that we had "the talk" and it kind of freaked me out.

I met friends for breakfast and bloody marys. Hiked 30 miles this weeks total in prep for Whitney next month. Pretty fun but tiring!

D17 graduated last week. She looked beautiful and is so happy. S20 is still figuring out where to go in the fall. Should be decided in the next week or so...sports are still in the mix so that makes admissions and choices a bit more tricky.

Just hanging today with daughter and her bf. She pulled out my yearbook from 1982. We laughed at the clothes and hairstyles. I was sporting a pretty big "do" at the time. I pulled out all of my old records (I still have a record player!)....we've listened to Bob Segar, Aerosmith, Eagles, Fleetwood Mac, Bruce, Pat Benetar, the Go-Gos, and now we're listening to the Cars. It is so fun to look at the record inserts and the photos with the crazy hair bands and their tight satin pants. Kind of like a time capsule.

Hope you guys are having a nice day...........

[Starsky309]

Abbey,

LOVE your taste in music! I got just about every one of those on my iPhone.

Ahhh, the good ol' days!

Starsky

[abbey1989]

So H mentioned that he wants to go up to a convention in SF this coming Friday. He forwarded me the info....looks pretty interesting. I asked if I could join him....I would just cruise around SF, shop, sightsee and whatnot. A few days pass and I told him I'd check airline flights. I did yesterday and they were roughtly $220 RT pp....but today they are up to $436 pp. I said well why don't we drive so then I could go and it would cost less? All along he had no desire to do the 1000 mile roundtrip drive. So I decided that I wouldn't go to save $ on airline ticket and asked if he wanted me to book his ticket.

He said he thought I was taking care of everything yesterday. I told him the price of the tickets yesterday and he was his usual non-committal self and didn't give me an answer. So then I asked well...do you want me to book your ticket and he laid a guilt trip on me about how I was trying to turn this trip into something other than what he intended it to be..."a business trip".

So, I got ready for work. He kissed me goodbye but I was mad and hurt. I guess he couldn't be any more blunt about not wanting me to go. It really hurt my feelings. He knows how hard I have been working, and how much I've been wanting just a little getaway.

Later in the a.m. he called and said he'll drive up with my dad on Thursday (he coincidentally is going up north) and will then fly home Friday. He'll stay at my brother's house.

Whatever.

On the upside....IT'S THE FIRST DAY OF SUMMER! I'm going to turn off my phone this afternoon and go for a hike.

[abbey1989]

OH and it wouldn't surprise me if OW goes to this particular convention too since she is building a "green" house.

I hate her.