Just over a week ago my husband left me. He had been acting a bit strangely for a week or two before leaving - not eating, sleeping, getting cranky at the kids - he had recently started taking glucosomine and told me these were side effects of it. We went out for dinner on the Saturday night. We ordered our meals and he disappeared to the toilet for 15 minutes. He came back we ate, took the kids to the kids club and played the pokies. He then said his head was spinning and he had to take a walk. I found this strange but let him go. He was gone about half an hour. When he came back I asked him if he was ok, and if he wanted to go home. He said we should go home, so we got the kids and went home. He wanted to drive - I told him he shouldn't if his head had been spinning. We got home and I asked if he wanted to watch a movie - he said no, so I went and watched one myself in the lounge room. I had changed into pj's by then, but he hadn't. A short while later he came out and sat with me fully dressed. I asked him what was up. He said nothing, just feeling weird - probably lack of sleep. He went and came back again, and then left and came back, then went. When the movie finished I went to go to bed to find him standing in the kitchen still fully dressed. I had thought he'd gone to bed. We went to bed and he seemed unhappy so I asked if he was ok - he said yea just need sleep. I then asked if he wanted a cuddle - he said no. We went to sleep. Got up the next morning, he made breaky for the kids. I did the washing and the usual Sunday morning stuff. He had a work function to go in the afternoon (starting at 1pm) in the next town. I wanted to pop into the shops so asked him at 9.30am what time he was going to be leaving. He said well actually I was thinking about going and having lunch with my parents. I said I thought you might have, so I need to take the kids with me? He said yes. I went and got the kids organised - they whinged at why they couldn't stay home with dad, and I said because dad doesn't want us around. We went out and came back less then an hour later and he was gone. He had offered to put the second load of washing on the line, but he hadnt done it. I sent him a text asking what happened to the washing. No answer. He said he would probably be late so it was nearly 6 when the phone rang. He wasn't coming home - staying at his parents. I asked what had I done wrong? He said that I don't love him anymore, we have nothing in common, I don't like to socialise with him and his friends. I tried to argue but he said we'll talk tomorrow. I was bawling my eyes out by now and head to deal with two kids (twins 6 1/2). I sent him an email the next day asking for help. I had no idea what he had done and why.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
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BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
Yes it is true. I admit I have intimacy issues. I have two small kids (twins) run my own full time business plus do all household chores. I believe this is quite common after being married for a while and having kids. I've always made sure our house is tidy, laundry is done and dinner is cooked when he gets home. The last thing on my mind at the end of a busy day is sex. He never said he had issues with this. I actually thought over the last year we had turned a corner with this. I know the spark that was there 14 years ago is gone. I've tried to organize date nights etc but he didn't like someone we don't know looking after the kids.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
We are actually away on our overseas holiday at present. Things are great. We are getting along as well as ever (that was never the problem). Only difference is he's sleeping with my son and I'm sleeping with my daughter. Hoping he might realize how great we are together and our other problems might be worth working on. But I have no expectations. Holiday is just for the kIds. He needs time out on his own to work out what he really wants from life.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
