Punkin you do crack me up, but seriously can he legally do this stuff?
I love the idea of him digging up the dead cat, or making off with the birdhouse. Was he always slightly crazy or is it pure MLC? Your h is right up there with Brooklyn's for sheer entertainment value but not so funny to be living through I suspect . . . . anyway thanks for making me laugh
Wasn't what he wanted drawn up in the divorce decree? Didn't he already get what the stuff he wanted? Beatrice brought up a good question. Is what he's doing legal?
I'm mind reading here, but I do wonder if this all stems from the fact that you really did sell the house and it the loss of his dream as well?
Now, I'm not saying you did anything wrong. You absolutely could not hang on to that place by yourself waiting for him, nor should you want to. I just think it's further evidence of how twisted the MLCer is.
Ah, but the house is not sold. His L was supposed to draw up the Decree and Settlement and had done nothing 6 weeks after the fact. A settlement that included the auction of the home in 3 months if not sold. But yes, My XH knows I have bought a house and am only waiting on the closing to move on with my life.
Was my XH always this twisted?? No way. I do not nor do I want to know the person he has become. He is hateful, arrogant, cocky, ugly, stupid. I could go on and on, but WTH?
Just have to get the decree filed so I can move on with my life - that doesn't include him.
Punkin, If he takes the birdhouses, then I know he's got space on the Mother Ship w/my xh. Mine took the hummingbird feeders and he lived in an apartment that didn't have a balcony at the time.
He's not twisted at all, this is mlc at its finest. Many of them take things that have a connection to them, but necessarily do not w/us. It is also a way of rebelling and taking things just to be taking them for a reaction out of us. I remember a long time ago, a mlcing man took the steps from the shed and didn't return them until he was back home several years later...it was reminder of what he had had prior to mlc.
In many cases, if you were to ask them why they took the stuff, the answer most likely would be because they wanted to. Most can't tell you the truth until much later in the crisis.
I know that this is difficult and frustrating and I want you to know that I've walked that same path many years ago. You aren't going to be able to figure out what he'll take next becase he won't know until he "sees" it. Moving to your new home will help alleviate this type of bs. Right now, he's just a bit off the wall and hopefully he'll leave you alone very soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I just got a chuckle from the post about the dead cat and him wanting to dig it up...that put a smile on my face....they really are very mental aren't they........good luck to you....Irma
Punkin I love your posts and your attitude. You do have one crazy MLCer.
One thing that it surprising to me - we are told that as they leave MLC they forget much of the stupid stuff they said and did. But this is the weird bit, and I wonder if this is just me. As my h slowly seems to be coming out of the fog - one step forward and one back, and no, we are not talking reconciliation here, just cautious 'friendship', I can't remember the things he said and did either. Twelve months ago I could have regaled you with some wonderful stories, and I know he did and said crazy things, but I can't recall them now. Either it is a prolonged senior moment [always possible and sometimes called a CRAFT moment] or a blessing.
Hi guys, just taking a moment at lunch to catch up. My L called me yesterday with a draft HE did, outlining what the judge actually said. Now I have to make it through the July 4th Holiday without XH blowing a fuse. Still stuck on the house. Two months after the fact AND I'M STILL MARRIED!!!
Good to go on letting XH come and get the things I agreed to. He will probably raise cain in some way or other, but I will not be there. Going to spend the weekend going from one room to another in the house, cleaning and clearing out. Got my storage bldg. full to the brim.
Keep wishing me luck guys. Once I ever get moved in, it'll take me 2 months to catch up with everyone's sitch.
Punkin, Keep the storage shed locked! When he comes to pick up some things, he's going to walk around, look and when his eyes settle on something that strikes his fancy, he'll take it. I do hope that he comes and gets whatever he wants and leaves. It's time for him to grow up and leave you alone. It's really a shame that you have to deal w/him at this time. I know just how you feel...
I do hope that you have a great holiday and can relax a bit.
Happy 4th!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Today's the day for XH to come and get 'his stuff'. Guess he forgot about asking me to dig up the cat! My friend and I hauled everything up to the shop ( uphill!) but it keeps him from going into the house. Presently sleeping on a blow up mattress in the living room. Not bad, overall.
Seems that XH is actually trying to purchase a place for him and sweetie-poo ( heavy on the poo) and this is blocking him as well. His lawyer has fed him a bunch of crap, and I'm just playing innocent. The more strung out he becomes, the calmer I become. Isn't life grand?
I so miss getting to visit everyone's thread everyday. Can't wait to get to my own place where I can visit with everyone again. XXXXOOOOOOO's
We miss you too! Any plan the last weekend of Aug?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
