More often than not the advice is to address problems within yourself.
I am blown away by the fact that it is nearly impossible to convince these posters that there is nothing wrong with them!
I would say that 99.9% of the time, that ^^^ is a ridiculous statement.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
You're both wrong. Harley's research (and others) indicate that there are about 25-30% of the cases of infidelity where there were NO prior marital problems reported, by either spouse.
3/4ths of the time, yes -- the betrayed spouse has some 'splainin' to do, and has contributed to the marital dysfunction.
25% of the time, infidelity occurs in a marriage where there were NO issues?
I have no statistics, but I am VERY skeptical of that number.
I can allow for some cases where someone just has some sort of pathology towards infidelity, but otherwise, I don't believe a spouse goes a lookin, if things are working right at home.
JMHO
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
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