I just wanted to share that with you all how much of a blessing you are truly being to me. I honestly don't know where I'd be without this board and your thoughts and prayers.
We're glad we can help. We're all in this together. You'll be able to pay/pray it forward.
Great words MHL. I fully understand what you're saying.
Things haven't been great on the homefront. Been pretty quiet as of late. I tried to reach out to my W yesterday to get the final things from my home. She's been extremely cold...which is to be expected. Is giving me the run around and telling me why she can't be available at a certain time. Unfortunately I'm pretty sure I know why she's "busy." OM's team is in town to play this evening so more than likely she stayed with him last night. She's been running around getting dolled up (hair and nails done). She's then going to see him this weekend in the city where his team is.
Obviously I can't control her so I have to continue on my path. I'm had Bible Study at noon and 6:30 yesterday and will be going to counseling at my church today as well as the beginning of a Men's Conference this evening. At least my next few days should be pretty busy, which I'm glad.
I'm also getting some of the bills finally taken out of my name at the house and then I'll be able to get my apartment set up a little better this weekend. I fully expect that once I get my final things from her (hopefully Friday) then I won't have any more interaction with her. I've done all I can do. I made it obvious I'm here. If it's going to turn around, it'll be up to her.
Until then, I have to keep on marching and keep on being consistent in my own growth. I will succeed...maybe not in the way that I "want" but I do thank God that He doesn't always give us everything we want, when we want it and how we want it. If He did, we'd all be in a lot of trouble.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
Obviously I can't control her so I have to continue on my path. I'm had Bible Study at noon and 6:30 yesterday and will be going to counseling at my church today as well as the beginning of a Men's Conference this evening. At least my next few days should be pretty busy, which I'm glad.
Very good stuff MTS.
Originally Posted By: MadeToSucceed
Until then, I have to keep on marching and keep on being consistent in my own growth. I will succeed...maybe not in the way that I "want" but I do thank God that He doesn't always give us everything we want, when we want it and how we want it. If He did, we'd all be in a lot of trouble.
Even better. I am glad we don't always get what we "want" because if we did, we would be severly limiting God.
Keep going down this path. Don't worry about what your W is doing. She's going to do what she's going to do.
Sorry that you are in the position that you have this knowledge about your W and the OM.
It does not take a genuis to put 2 and 2 together.....
There will come a day where her day to day whereabouts and activities will not concern you.....it does take time.
I used to look at it this way with my XW...... the more she was with the OM the more there would be an opportunity there would be for the initial "high" to wear off and then there comes a realization that they really do not have anything in common.
I have read many WAW's stories that have decided to come back, most of them come to the realization that most relationships are just alike........they do still love us and want our friendship and companionship and all the things that REAL, LASTING LOVE are made of.........the things that make up Commitment and Dedication.
They eventually realize that the "high" of any new relationship fades with time......and when it does fade they look back at their spouse and realize what it is that makes up true long lasting relationships.
The thing is that it takes TIME for them to figure it out, and they need to figure out without any pressure from us......at all.
Remain strong, focus on yourself and remember that HIS time is perfect.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
That's the craziest part right now is knowing that nothing else legal happens until October 19th when me meet for mediation. Obviously I'm hoping that something changes before then but I realize there's absolutely no guarantee that there will so maybe her being around him will help. I don't know.
Definitely focusing on myself now. Have no other choice.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
One that will definitely change is going to be you. You are working on yourself and making a lot of positive changes. You are becoming the better option.
Give the OM some time to start making some mistakes.
