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Originally Posted By: lifejustgothard2
Thank u. Just thought wed beat this thing.

What does THIS mean?



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No it will have to b written in the order

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then minimize it within the "normal range"

like one weekend a month or one night a week...(preferably the latter since it's more frequent--UNLESS you have a need for something else)

and see if he asks for more.


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

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Or write in none, and let him counter it. Really ... that's what he's been living with ...


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Originally Posted By: PEImom_of_3
Or write in none, and let him counter it. Really ... that's what he's been living with ...


I kinda like this^^^

how does it hurt?


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S30,D28,D19
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Recon 7/07- 8/08
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X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
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DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

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I agree. She will write it as agreed upon by us. So if he really wAnts to see them he will have to make the effort rather than being handed a schedule telling him when to see them. What do u think about that?

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I do think SOME days need to be inserted

b/c the kids want to see him, correct?


If so, think of them first,

not him or his idiocy/cowardice/fear/shame, blah blah blah...


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
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Ok) but he has made NO effort to see them and now I will b telling him when he has to. Just doesn't set well with me. Won't he ssee this as control?

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YOU are not telling him this...the court is.

Am I missing something here?

Your options, IF you are in charge of ALL of this, are

1) say zero visitation b/c that's what seems to be the way he wants it (for how long now??)

2) or announce a certain number of visits and hope he shows up, regardless of whether he thinks it is controlling.

My guess is that the latter is what's best for the KIDS

but only if he really does show up.

I think he will but, who knows?


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

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Yes, not me the courts but my L is asking me what I think. She would like to say "if he wants to see them he will call and arrange time". My words of course. Then we will b sure he wants to see them not a court order.
I don't want him to have them if he doesn't want them.

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