You are absolutely right, it was my trust issue shining through. It's her business, not mine. And that's why I didn't ask anything about her "friend" 'cuz it's none of my business. She did bring it up and explain it but I just hope it wasn't because of my nosiness the previous day. And yes, Barb my trust is pretty low for any woman right now, I know that. This is the first time I've ventured out and all these feelings are hitting me from all angles!lol. But tonight I'm feeling good and looking forward to our afternoon tomorrow. I bought a new shirt tonight so she'd see me in something she hasn't seen before. My way of saying "hey, I want to look nice for you" Anyway, I'm hoping that much of my anxiety will have passed now, the antibiotics the doctor gave me for Bronchitis have finally kicked in and I'm feeling human again. It's tough trying to fathom the world of women and dating while your crapped out with bronchitis. But tonight all is well!
Donna, I do ask her to repeat things and sometimes I can tell be her expression she's trying to process whatever I've said. I speak very quickly when excited, just as she does, so it's just as hard for her sometimes. Her English is very good but her Filipino accent when excited takes getting used to. I speak with her 15 minutes at a time, so there's never a long period where we speak and can really master that communication. tomorrow will be a great chance for us both to really learn to talk with each other. Once she was telling me something on break, looked at me and started laughing and said "You have no idea what I just said, do you?" and I replied, "absolutely none!" It will come in time, it doesn't worry me. Been there, done that!
Tomorrow when I pick her up I will come bearing gifts... and no not flowers but a bag of her favourite Filipino chips made in Manila. The way to an Asian woman's heart is through her stomach!
Well, in a few minutes I'm off to pick up Mecca Mamma. Unfortunately I seem to have misplaced her address but it's in my head anyway. I will pack two bottles of water, blueberries, cherries, raspberries and Lorazepam (kidding)for us to munch on at the park. Hmm, what if she brings stuff too? We'll be real full, I guess. Wish me luck Dbers...can't find my sunscreen either!
Well, I just got home and I'm still smiling. It was such a wonderful seven hours together. She's so much fun! We talked, we laughed and were just so at ease with each other. I forgot to be nervous! We went to the town of Unionville, which is a little town N or Toronto and we walked through the boutiques. We stopped for desserts at a patio, watched a classical music concert in the park, then went down to the pond. Afterwards we went and had dinner at a patio restaurant. We talked the whole time, it was great. I drove her home and she took me in to meet her housemates (Asian women will not do that unless they really like you).So I hung around there for a bit. Finally, I suggested I go home and she walked me to my car. I said "I had such a good time, I really enjoyed being with you" and she said "Me too" We made plans to do something together next week together and said goodnight. She stood and giggled and I rubbed her arms. No goodnight kiss. That can wait, I'm very careful of the "don't go too fast code" although I think I might have got a kiss if I went for it. In good time. She told me her story in the car on the way to Unionville. She has no husband, her child was born out of wedlock, she refused to marry the father as he was fooling around on her. Her father left her mother when she was two and she only saw him again twice in her life. Her mom raised her two sisters, brother and her on her own and she, MM, "doesn't need any man to look after her, she can take care of herself". And damn, if she can't, when she wants to do something she does it. I told her my story, I left out the part where wife decided to bat for the other team. But I told her that I've been separated for 4 years and as of yet have not filed for divorce. I think we both laid it out pretty honestly. I had such a great time today. I'm so happy!
I knew you'd be smiling. Basking in the after glow so to speak. I remember those fluttery first date feelings - LOL. Well - congrats! I'm happy for you. It sounds perfect.
and I brought her the Filipino chips I bought for her when I picked her up. I said "I'm not sure whether they're your favourites but..." and she "it doesn't matter as long as they're chips!" I think it was all over right there! lol
