I think she wants me to see some nice pictures of her! I won't post anything about our R there. I'll save that for personal messages to friends or DB'ing. I ain't that open!
I posted a message on FB saying to her in Tagalog that she is prettier than a rose. She replied "that is so sweet, thank you. Where did you learn this Tagalog" I said "I write what i want into the computer and it translates it" She told me her roommates want me to go out to lunch with them all soon. Oh oh, it's the big "meet the family" meeting. She doesn't have family here so there it is. I also told her that I came home smiling last night and still am. She said "Really!" I said "I'm looking forward to seeing you again next week" and she replied "me too". I also mentioned that my girls saw her pictures and said "Daddy, she's so pretty!" "so you've got a fan club bigger than just me now!" That's when she told me that my fan club had gotten bigger too, her "family" wanted me to come to lunch with them. The plot thickens!
For what it's worth. I will say it again - I wouldn't have my R on FB. Not to put a damper on your joy but a couple of things. First - you're still not divorced. Second - She did work with you (I know - you said it's not a problem but...) and Third - Your kids are on FB.
I thought you put it in a private message but you put it as your status. I have told my kids several times - don't live your R on FB. Use the Phone. Or text. Or Email. But FB is for everyone to read. And I honestly don't think you will really want that.
Everything that is said and all photos will be shared with Voldemorte. And I think there are probably things you might not want to share with your kids so early on.
I know, I know - I'm a prude. But I think our lives are just a little too much "out there" with FB and I think you need to be careful.
I have to admit, I do think FB is a relationship minefield.
I am FB friends with my ex-boyfriend from last year - but have to admit, it still pains me sometimes to see his girlfriend on there, and I am careful not to comment too much or right after her.
Last fall I had a long-distance admirer who friended me first on FB, then started wooing me. He would post inappropriately intimate things on my wall (not nasty, but just lovey-dovey stuff that wasn't appropriate to our situation - should have been in private messages) and it was just awkward.
I ended the flirtation with him once I figured out he was - umm - a little weird, but for professional reasons, felt I had to tread lightly and couldn't unfriend him. So I tiptoed around on my own FB page, afraid to say much,for months until he finally unfriended me (thank you god!)
The whole experience made me very wary of having any currently active boyfriend as my FB friend.
Thoughts appreciated. I initially put a few statuses on FB because her settings were still not changed. We've been messaging privately since. AS far as my girls, they know I'm seeing this lady. Last week I sat them down and explained who she was and that we've decided to see each other and see how it goes. I told them it's no big deal but I felt you should know so I don't feel as though I'm sneaking around saying "just going out". The girls are thrilled, "Wahoo, Daddy!" "Go for it, Dad". Anyway MM's settings are now in place where we can communicate privately. As as for Voldemort, who gives a f@ck whether she knows or not!
Yes Donna - that is exactly what I was thinking. And don't forget that for professional reasons - you really don't want your R out there.
I'm glad your kids are happy for you. Mine were for me as well. But they didn't want it in their face. And they didn't want their friends to see things on FB.
At any rate - enjoy the day. We're not trying to spoil it. Just to tell you that you'll feel differently in a month about FB
OK, I took off the Tagalog from my status. I only put it there because her messaging wasn't working. I'd transferred that greeting earlier onto her messaging when it was working. Workwise, our paths will never cross again...ever. And as for Voldemort "affairs" (which this is not) don't mean sh1t in Canada in regards to divorce. We already have a SA anyway. And yes kat, she is a really pretty lady and is lucky indeed. I know I'm a good man and if this moves forward I will treat her right and I will expect the same. She's been burned before too. Donna, nice to see you too!
