It's hard to do things when you don't feel appreciated for them. But that doesn't mean they aren't the right thing to do. Just means you have to appreciate yourself for them instead of relying on validation from the other person.
Or come here and have us validate you.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Got the response sent off. That was tough but not too bad. My L put in a "Special Denial" statement that I don't agree with the D and think marriage could be saved by professional counseling. He had asked briefly if I wanted something saying
I found the lawyer-speak funny, especially the "prayers" at the end. W's lawyer "prayed" that the court would give her relief, my lawyer "prayed" that upon final hearing hereof, Petitioner take nothing and Respondent be granted all relief requested.
Staying dark. Working on myself. I feel relaxed today for the first time in a while.
Several fun things planned for the weekend, reading threads here helps as well. TGIF everyone!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Haven't responded yet. She was supposed to e-mail me some business stuff. My heart goes out to her, and I sad she's feeling bad, but I can't help her now.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I'm thinking "let me know when you want to talk about details".
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Drew, Thanks for responding. Maybe I don't, open to suggestions.
My L said it's better if we're still talking, because I need to tell her what I'll agree to, get her L to draw it up, and I'll sign.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
No, I don't. I responded to the D filing only because I had to.
Man, this staying dark is hard. I don't want to be passive aggressive and not take care of this, but her text wasn't really business-related or a request for anything.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Jon, you live in Texas, right? You do have to answer within a certain amount of time of being served or you will be in default. That way, your wife could potentially get a divorce right away with little to no consideration given to you and your needs by the court.
Simply answering the petition does nothing to speed the divorce along. It does keep you out of hot water with the court and judge. I answered my husband's petition (and filed a counter petition), and the divorce has been gathering cobwebs since that time. We worked out kids/finances on our own outside of court and have been working toward possibly reconciling since that time.
Time is still on your side. Keep GAL, working toward your personal goals and detaching.
