JB and WHg I have also been reaching out to people I haven't talked to in years. I'm doing things that normally I would not and it feels good. I am putting my pride aside and asking for help. a 180 for me. Entertaining large crowds for me was always fun. W would get anxious but direct from the background, always caused conflicts between us. She is very introverted. That is something she will miss about me. WHg the group idea sounds great go for it,
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Clarity I know better than to not trust God. But sometimes, I forget that. When we are in the midst of an experience, it is easy to forget that there is a Plan. Sometimes, all we can see is today. If we were to watch a weaver sewing a tapestry for only a few moments, and focused on only a small piece of the work, it would not look beautiful. It would look like a few peculiar threads randomly placed. How often we use that same, limited perspective to look at our life - especially when we are going through a difficult time. We can learn to have perspective when we are going through those confusing, difficult learning times. When we are being pelted by events that make us feel, think, and question, we are in the midst of learning something important. We can trust that something valuable is being worked out in us - even when things are difficult, even when we cannot get our bearings. Insight and clarity do not come until we have mastered ou r lesson. Faith is like a muscle. It must be exercised to grow strong. Repeated experiences of having to trust what we can't see and repeated experiences of learning to trust that things will work out, are what makes our faith muscles grow strong. Today, I will trust that the events in my life are not random. My experiences are not a mistake. The Universe, my Higher Power, and life are not picking on me. I am going through what I need to go through to learn something valuable, something that will prepare me for the joy and love I am seeking.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
It was another beautiful day today here. It was crystal clear with temperatures in the mid 50s.
I smuggled in Skyline for lunch today for my S. I splurged and bought the dip and chips for him and share with some of his classmates, too. I got to outside for recess with him after lunch, too. He was thrilled!
I hit the bike path again today to punish my body some more. 33 miles today. I think I'll take the weekend off of biking. Prior to the ride, I had stopped at my local coffee shop and also perused an outdoor store that has a bunch of things I want but can't afford.
I got home at the exact same time my S got home. He wanted to hang out inside, but I encouraged him to get outside and throw the frisbee with the dog and me. Then, we decided to see if he could ride my W's bike. Her bike is pretty low mileage - it has less miles on it than I've ridden this week alone. So we lowered the seat and he was able to ride. He was so excited - it has gears and a computer that tells him how far he's gone and how fast he's going. That pretty much shot the time until my W got here.
My W had texted me and asked if wanted to just take S down to her apartment, because she was stuck in traffic. I just texted back and said we were going on a bike ride. It was another pleasant exchange. I didn't really advertise what I've been doing this week, but it was pretty obvious what I had done today, based on what I was wearing. She job about a potential job opportunity where she's working now - it would mean she would be working both days of every weekend, but she'd also have a couple days off during the week. I shared S's report card with her - I have it on the refrigerator. One of his teachers had commented, "Exhibits positive attitude". I had highlighted it. I am proud of him. He's DB'ing the teachers now.
Unfortunately, the rest of my evening's pretty bland. These are the evenings I crave that companionship. A date would be nice, but so, so wrong in my book. I also don't know a whole lot of other single guys in the same position I am right now. It's all right, though. It's been a pretty busy day. I may just chill out with a Redbox movie.
JB how long would it take me from NJ to Ohio on a bike?
I would say it would depend on how fast your ride. I would imagine it would be several days. I don't think you'd go wrong with gunny at all. I can tell it would take me about 3 hours one way to ride from where I am to where gunny's W is.
Busy, busy weekend GAL'ing for me. I'll post more tomorrow and catch up with y'all's sitches. Right now, it's late, and I'm tired. I gotta go back to work tomorrow, so I think I'd better get to bed.
Hey, JB! I hope you got some rest last night after your busy week off from work. It sounds like you fit more into a week's time than a lot of people could fit in a month!
Congrats to your son on his report card and on his positive attitude! I'll tell you like I told TM regarding his son, "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree."
33 miles today. I think I'll take the weekend off of biking. 
Prior to the ride, I had stopped at my local coffee shop and also perused an outdoor store that has a bunch of things I want but can't afford. 
He's DB'ing the teachers now. 