Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
This is interesting because when we were together my W used to tell me that I "was perfect" because I "was not perfect." I would always thank her for the compliment and let her know I loved her too, but told her that calling me "perfect" made me uncomfortable, becuase I didn't want to be the guy on the pedastal. I wanted her to see me as human, but caring.
Now she tells friends that the OM does things for her that I could never do!
M:35 W:33 M: 5 yrs. Daughter: 2 yr .7/11/10 D Final: 8/7/12
I think they want to see perfection in us because if we are perfect and love them, they see themselves as better people.... Does that make sense? It has so much to do with their self esteem and their childhood issues.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I'm with Kimmerz I don't even want him parked in front of my house.
Ex says to me, "well I was gonna ask you if you wanted to go to the movies." Please take note that the previous weekend he was so angry and told me how happy he was and that I did him a favor divorcing him.
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
That is funny, but also a mixed signal. I want you, I don't want you.......
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Another mixed signal.... Ex lecturing my son on how to SAVE his money...omg
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Ex just told my oldest daughter that he has decided to start counseling men on the trauma of going through a divorce...omg He is a financial planner by trade. Does he realize he caused this trauma?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
OMG! No, he doesn't realize that he caused all of the trauma. He thinks it was the marriage and you, etc. This is absolutely too much for my little brain today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
