My W contacted me on Thursday night. She wanted to give me a heads up that she tried to change her address at the bank and someone had used her SSN to open a new credit card in her name (they told her the last 3 digits were '666' nonetheless. What? Satan opened up a credit card in her name? ). When I got home from Men's group, I did a little research on identity theft and sent her some information on what to do and where to get more information.
Friday she calls me and she's very upbeat. It was a mix-up at the bank. They had issued her a new credit card automatically. She thanked me for praying for her and she said she knew I was praying for her. I just told her, "Yes I was, and you're welcome".
Busy, busy weekend. I had 5 yards of mulch dumped in my driveway on Friday. Friday I got started on trimming some bushes and trees.
Up early on Saturday morning. I went for a 43 mile breakfast ride with the local cycle club. Then I was time to come home and work on the yard. I ended up working on the yard all afternoon and into the late evening.
Sunday I went to church. I took myself out for coffee and lunch afterward. As soon as I finished up my errands, I went back to church to help out with the end of school bash we were having for the kids.
My W brought my S fairly early. This was her first time on church property since last summer. She parked way out in the parking lot and my S got out of the back. She did walk up and talk to me for a bit. One thing that's noteworthy is that back in the day, she was youth director at the church she grew up in. I can't imagine what she was thinking seeing a volleyball net, tables, a grill and basketball hoops up. Maybe nothing, maybe it stung. She complimented my shorts, too. I just acted cool, and slightly interested at best.
Had a great time with the kids and my S on Sunday evening. It's cool we had the party.
Monday morning I got up early again. I ran a 5K race with some folks from my church. Once again, it was time to hit the mulch and yardwork when I got home. I had my S, so unfortunately I wasn't able to have the quality time with him I normally get to have. Ugh, these responsibilities are cutting into my GAL'ing. I did get the entire pile of mulch off my driveway, though.
Yesterday, I went back to work, and I was tired. No exercise yesterday. I started working on getting some of that financial stuff my W wants for the L to put together a draft settlement. I felt a great deal of anxiety while I was getting that together. Ugh! And it was a pain, too. I had my Relationships, a.k.a. Ladies' group at church last night. Great meeting.
Today I got up and did a 3 mile run, followed by an 8.6 mile bike. It was my S's last day of school. I smuggled in Chipotle one final time this year for lunch. This school, I didn't miss a single week as far as having lunch with my S.
It's also a "vacation push" week for me. I am still planning on taking the family vacation minus my W next week.
Getting ready to do one of the ultimate GAL'ing activities - going on the family vacation with my S, but without my W!
It was a busy week and I'm still getting ready to go. Finished up phase 1 of the landscaping on Wednesday night. Thursday night I went on a 39 mile group bike ride through the hills and downtown.
Yesterday, after work I departed for a 2 hour drive to go to my nephew's graduation open house. It ran from 6-11 and I didn't get there until 9:50. This nephew is my BIL's son, but I've always been close to him. My W also drove up for it. She called me while on was on the way - she was tired and considered bailing out. But she pressed on when I said I was still going. I ended up DB'ing her brother and his family. I was upbeat and positive and really had a good time. My W got there about 20 minutes after I did and left about 40 minutes prior to me leaving.
I called my W today. I haven't gotten all the stuff together yet she needs for the L. I didn't want her to do something stupid and rash while I was on vacation. I just gave her an update that I started getting stuff together and I'd need to finish up when I got back. She was perfectly fine with that. I was actually a very nice conversation. We talked about our nephew for awhile. I started the convo with wanting to make sure she got home OK last night.
One note on our convo. My W was very upbeat and positive when I talked to her. DB'ing says to be upbeat and positive around your wayward W or H. It has its merits both ways. I can tell you that when she's upbeat and positive to me, it really does make a difference. I am more inclined to want to talk to her and/or be around her. If I do this with NO expectations, I'm in a good place.
One note on our convo. My W was very upbeat and positive when I talked to her. DB'ing says to be upbeat and positive around your wayward W or H. It has its merits both ways. I can tell you that when she's upbeat and positive to me, it really does make a difference. I am more inclined to want to talk to her and/or be around her. If I do this with NO expectations, I'm in a good place.
If you can figure out the expectations thing.. let me know.
Enjoy vacation!
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
Just got back from vacation last night. I've taken the day off to rest up for work tomorrow. Tonight I have my relationships group with all the ladies at church and then I'm planning to get some exercise afterward.
My S and I had a really good time on vacation together. We had some relaxation and some adventure. We went parasailing for the first time and followed that up with going jet skiing for the first time.
It sux having to come back to reality, but it's also nice being home. I think I was feeling a little anxiety on the way home because I knew I was coming back to a situation I need to deal with at home.
I did not hear from my W once while I was on vacation. My S reached out to her a couple of times, but I don't believe she reached out to him. I will have to say there was a time or two where I missed her. However, it was a lot different than last year. A year has gone by and it's made a pretty big difference. Last year I was a lot sadder and more out of sorts. This year I was more able to focus on just being on vacation with my S. We went back to same condo we had gone as a family both 2 and 3 years ago. This year, however, I didn't necessarily feel like my W belonged there and was missing like I did last year.
). When I got home from Men's group, I did a little research on identity theft and sent her some information on what to do and where to get more information.
I ended up working on the yard all afternoon and into the late evening.
Ugh, these responsibilities are cutting into my GAL'ing. 
I did get the entire pile of mulch off my driveway, though.
