What is intersting is that ex was calling her my given name, when he had always used my nic-name to address me. My older daughter thought that he might have been intentionally trying to upset bimbo......?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
So ex texted me and wants to get together to "discuss the kids schedules". I have been doing a good job avoiding him and only texting him if it relates to the kids. It has also brought me considerable peace to not be around him since he is a royal spewer. I texted him that I would be happy to discuss the "kids schedules". I will leave it at that and see what he comes up with. Not sure if I will put myself through a face to face with ex or just do it via phone....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, Considering the drama that is brewing in his life, I think I would consider doing it over the phone. There's no reason for you to have to put yourself thought the aggravation of seeing him when the phone can do the trick just as easily.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Snodderly, Exactly, that is probably my best bet. I just don't want to be sucked into his life anymore.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Tell me Snodderly, do the OW go through all the drama also?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I'm sure that at some time in the mlc relationship w/the op, there is some drama. They are like children wanting attention and the op gives it to them. I'm sure that the op gets tired of their bs just as we do...but most likely will suck it up for the good time train to continue. Now, it might be different once the ring is on the finger and the relationship becomes a sealed deal...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I believe what will happen now is I will not hear from him for a while and he will bring this up at a later date. It is almost like he baits me and runs away. The games are tiring and I am through with them. Kaffe, your point regarding email is well taken. My ex is very confused and to have it in writing is a great suggestion. Ex wants a different kids schedule that works best for him, not the kids. I have no intention of changing it so he will be very disappointed and probably again (#6) take me back to court/mediation. He always ends up losing and then the spewing happens yet again.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I think I have said this before but many MLC behaviors are attention seeking. They prefer negative attention to none at all. So . . . . they wil go on and on until they get tired of the game.
Think of it as attention seeking behaviour and continue to treat it calmly, as you would a spoilt child or dog. So he wants to go back to court again . . . . .OK. When he ceases to get your attention he will stop. Trust me, it works, but it takes a long while.
I wouldn't put it past him to be getting married as a way of getting your attention, mad as it sounds. It doesn't sound as if he actually wants to go through with it.
