As a woman- i wonder if a man (my man) would/could come to her conclusions and find his way out. it sure was an eye-opener. my H sounds like her- totally unaware he may be the problem, contribute to it or even be involved. it's all about his fun and my causing all the trouble. i have trouble having faith (in him) - i have a bit of hope in life- in general - i have alot of confusion & pain. interesting insights tho..- thanks for sharing it
IMO, when someone is in a CRISIS they do not see it. They cannot understand it.
Funny, I spoke with my Mom yesterday (recent death in the family) and she was explaining to me what SHE went through. Man it was tough to hear. She admitted to feeling like she was in a (exact quote here) "fog". She admitted to feeling this way for 10 years. She was quite remorseful of some of her actions during her crisis and even admitted that sometime it still comes back...sometime she still feels like she is in a fog.
Nero, I have not read your entire sitch...but my advise is to listen to folks here that stress....detachment and focusing on YOU. It really is the only way through this.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
Babe, Thank you so much! I read through this and so many of the links. So much to think about. So much to help me stay the course. Focus on me. Detach. GAL. Self Differentiation... It is not easy from one moment to the next. Sometimes some tactics work to get me out of my head. Sometimes, it doesn't. But the most important thing I am reminding myself is that it is his MLC journey. I am on my own. I actually think I was in MLC (mild) for a while and this actually forced me to look at where I am now. Not sure. Still processing... so much growth going on even with CoVid....
Hope all is well.
W (me): 50 H: 46 M: 21 T: 25 S:17 D:15 BD 11/2019
Fate whispers to the warrior, "You can not withstand the storm" And the warrior whispers back, "I am the storm." ~Unknown
