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Slow and steady. The moment she senses any pressure and she could distance. She will let you know if and when she is ready to recommit.

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I need some exercises to become more entertaining and be better companion.

Maybe you can break this down in to smaller more goal oriented ideas.

Then it is something you can work on either for her or your next relationship.


Would you explain what do you mean.
Describe the goals, what should I read or watch?

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Originally Posted By: Nukem
Describe the goals, what should I read or watch?

What I was writing was in Divorce Remedy.

Let me try

If you were to become more entertaining or a better companion, what would that LOOK like?

Is that something YOU can judge or are you relying on your spouse to tell you?

We need goals that YOU can CONTROL not that rely on someone else for completion.

If you need VALIDATION maybe you can get some here.


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Thanks, guys.

She called me up in the morning and talked about a sport accessories we haven't found yesterday. Nothing important, but she raised the topic. She also asked me if I had bought something with the vouchers she had given to me yesterday. Also not important. Minutes later she emailed me a link with the eligible products.

Few minutes later she called me again to ask me if our friend would be at his job in the insurance company. Keep in mind that yesterday I explained her that she should go today to register the car damage and our friend will help her.

So far so good smile

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Nothing special happened last days.
Limited communication. Her voice is warmer. She always return calls.
That's all for now.

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This evening I brought our girl back to their house.
My ex met me at the door and I told her that tomorrow I will take our daughter at 9.30 for her tennis lesson.
She asked me to wake them up by phoning them.
I think it is a good sign. During our last attempt for rapprochement it all started the similar way.
It is possible that she is just playing with me.

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Hey,
I woke them up by phone this morning and took the girl.
My ex called me few minutes later and asked me why I was unfriendly and didn't come in the house. I answered that everything was fine. She called me 2 more times during the day.
When I took the kid back the environment was friendly.
I stayed at their place for few minutes and then went back home.

I stopped calling her with her pet name because she also stopped doing it.

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This night she called me on my mobile at about 4 am. I didn't hear the her calls because my mobiles were switched silent. I called her in the morning and she told me that the alarm in her flat had been activated. So she called me 3 times to ask me check the flat. She should have known that I wouldn't. be able to do it because I don't have key for her flat. Our morning call was short.

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Currently she is living in her parents' luxorious house.

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Today we discussed the health and growth of our daughter.
She is approaching her teen age. We talked by phone for few minutes.

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