Saw emails from 3 months ago from W. All perfectly normal, signed with xxx. Bang, here and now we're living in seperate houses, I'm applying for jobs on the other side of the pond and I still have no clue what's happening. No affairs, no insurmountable problems (to my mind anyway). It's all a bit mindblowing!
Yup, same exact scenario here. 3 months ago my wife was ending calls with "ILY" and signing emails "XXOO". A little less than 3 months ago I got the BD and now she's in the process of moving out. No OM, no big trigger, just got the "I'm not happy and haven't been for a long time" and "ILYBINILWY" speech. The bottom line is this, we've got to look at our relationships to see what went wrong. We THOUGHT there were no insurmountable problems, but there were. In my case we both focused on being parents and abandoned our relationship in the process. I was OK with that and assumed we'd reconnect after the kids moved off to college. Little did I know W was not OK with it. Figure out what went wrong and do 180's on those mistakes. Make the 180's a permanent part of you. Your W will notice even if she doesn't say so. And give it time, she needs to know you're not just trying to lure her back and that you really are changing. Good luck!
