The mood swings section on this is so spot on. My W is so cyclical with her moodswings I could put on a calendar when i was going to hear i want a D again.
Thank you so much. I had forgotten a lot of this information. No wonder I feel like I'm going insane at times. The cruel, manipulative behavior can be unbearable.
This Is a very good post. It really has helped Me keep perspective when I feel like I am going crazy myself with his mood swings and negating my existence mode. I hope this can be a sticky. Thanks Trusting
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
I can see my H healing and experiencing acceptance of his life.
Thank you so much for posting this.
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Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
Now it makes sense why my H is acting this way. I've often said to friends that he's a dr jekyll and mr hyde character and one of my friends actually agreed with me last week. She's seen both sides to his character. The criticism of the family is also true. I've posted on my thread today about my H ringing me up this morning and if anyone goes to look then they will see it's exactly what a MLC would do! I posted my update in another forum, but I don't think they understand what a MLC is like. They told me I should get rid of him, so I said goodbye to the forum and will now just be posting on here At first I didn't know whether it was depression or MLC, but having read this post I realise that it's both. My H is getting more angry and often shouts at our son for no good reason. It's so accurate that you say that they get so out of control that you are worried about them. Does anti depressants help with MLC? That's of course if you can convince them that they need them. My H goes round and does some jobs for my friend. She said she'll talk to him in a neutral way and tell him how she's been depressed, how it's affected her and how the tablets have made her a lot better than she was. I can but hope that he'll listen to her
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
hi trying. same sit with the depression. it runs in h family. he didn't like that his mom was on meds. I asked if he would consider for his kids sake. He gets grouchy with me or annoyed with kids. I think it is his guilt.
Good luck with the friend talking about AD. My h doesn't talk to anyone.(except ow) his typical response it thanks for your concern. I know he is confused and hurting. he wants d too. we are due to 'talk' tomorrow.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Hi will, good to see you on here Thanks for the good luck, I hope he listens, but as Cadet says in my own thread there is no guarantee that ADs will work for the MLC. I guess I just have to be patient and wait. Sorry to hear you are due to talk about the D tomorrow, it's an upsetting time for all of us LBS All I can say is have a plan ready so that you can get through this as best you can. I've not heard for H's lawyer, but now I've got a plan it'll make life easier. I plan to get myself a lawyer and ask for a mediator. The mediator will be like a go between and talk to both of us separately and together. She/he will try to get to find out why he wants a D so quickly and see if we can reconcile in some way.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Trying, my w started ADs right after bd and they've improved her mood but numb her to feeling guilt or concern about her actions. What I think happens is they blame the lbs for being depressed and go on ADs. They start feeling better and, without counseling, think they've solved their problem. Their problem being us (external).
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
I agree Mtnman My H actually said I'm the reason why he's depressed and he's still depressed so he can't blame me anymore He's been on ADs before, but when he starts to feel better then he comes off them. He doesn't realise that it's the ADs that are making him better. I think I'll leave trying to solve this sitch with ADs because from what I've heard they do no good for the MLCer anyway! I think I'll suggest HRT instead ROFL!!!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
All I can say is have a plan ready so that you can get through this as best you can. I've not heard for H's lawyer, but now I've got a plan it'll make life easier. I plan to get myself a lawyer and ask for a mediator. The mediator will be like a go between and talk to both of us separately and together. She/he will try to get to find out why he wants a D so quickly and see if we can reconcile in some way.