UPS hires this time of year. Have you looked on Craigslist? Go get a CDL plenty of truck driving jobs. Stop making excuses you have two children depending on you.
M 44 W 43 S 23 S 15 INILWY 9/11 Divorce Mediation started 3/13 June 30 the day W is moving out
Haha I've applied at ups fed ex most stores in my local mall... And I live on craigslist. But I may have got a job offer I have to call the lady back in the morning. P.s no excuses here I really have tried everywhere!
The W came to pick the kids up tonight from my parents (I was working there) and my oldest S5 said he wanted to stay at grandmas house with me tonight, she was like I won't see you till wed buddy. So I was like maybe you can stay with mommy tomorrow night then out of no where she was like well we could all stay there tomorrow (our house), we could go grocery shopping too... I'm not sure how to take this... The whole time she was here picking my youngest up she was none stop talking to me... Very weird for how she had been towards me....
M: 25 W:23 M: 4 years T: 10 years S:5 S1 BD: 8/20/12 Sep: 11/12
Haha I have applied EVERY WHERE! I'm either over qualified out under.I do auto body work so unless I find a job doing that I'm in limbo. I had no clue it was so hard! I've filed out at least 100 apps and sent in at least 100 resumes.
That's your entire take-away from 25's posts??? "Haha" and some comments about your job search? Go back and read them again. She is exceedingly wise and I learn a lot from seemingly every single thing she posts. And she tailors her comments to each specific person, her comments are like an arrow into the bullseye of your sitch. Go back and read them again.
I'm left with the impression that you don't actually want to do anything at all, you just want people to tell you "sit on your butt until your sitch resolves itself" and you're hanging your hat on the hope that all will be well in a few weeks. That's not going to happen. DB'ing is extremely hard work. Not everyone has what it takes.
then out of no where she was like well we could all stay there tomorrow (our house), we could go grocery shopping too... I'm not sure how to take this... The whole time she was here picking my youngest up she was none stop talking to me... Very weird for how she had been towards me....
Your distancing may have gotten her attention and she's going into pursuit mode. You should react by maintaining your distance. If you make a move towards her she'll go back to distancing. So keep DB'ing. That's fine if you want to go with her above idea, but just make sure not to overreact to her interest.
25 - I didn't see your second post. I'm learning to let EVERYTHING she says slide. Its hard but I'm getting better everyday. As far as a job goes I landed one a far as I pad all the pre employment tests.
AS - I didn't see 25' s second post, tonight is my night at the house and she is planning on staying there, so I'm not sure how it would go of I told her to get out with that being said I'm not sure what you mean by over react to her interest? If you mean don't get excited and think it means more then what it truly is... I'm not thinking it is anything but her wanting help going grocery shopping. Yea it would be nice if it were more but I know its not.
M: 25 W:23 M: 4 years T: 10 years S:5 S1 BD: 8/20/12 Sep: 11/12
with that being said I'm not sure what you mean by over react to her interest? If you mean don't get excited and think it means more then what it truly is... I'm not thinking it is anything but her wanting help going grocery shopping. Yea it would be nice if it were more but I know its not.
Good, yes that's exactly what I meant. A lot of LBS's want to see signs of improvement so bad that they read more into an action then is really there.
I wrote two long detailed posts and the only thing remotely resembling a response was about your job search...though the words "ha ha" are an odd choice to me.
Please read what I wrote to you more carefully. I'd rather ask you to do that and see if something sinks in, than give up on you. But I won't waste much more time on detailed aimed comments if you're not someone who is able to take in new information. A lot of folks here are ripe for change and it is THOSE LBSers who have the highest chance of success in life and in marriage.
I don't know if you're ripe for change or ever will be. But let's try to really take in the info presented and process it so you DO something new and different.
B/c again, that is the ONLY way you'll get your wife back...if SHE believes things are going to be better. So far she sees you without work and....well, does she see you looking?
Did you really read my GAL list?
Take that in too. Ironically, it may even help you with a job search since GAL means meeting new people and networking is part of the job search.
Also it might be time for some more schooling or training for better more stable work...or join military reserves & get a pension later,
or even enlisting full time. In your shoes, I'd consider it strongly.
AS-thanks for the plug!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
with that being said I'm not sure what you mean by over react to her interest? If you mean don't get excited and think it means more then what it truly is... I'm not thinking it is anything but her wanting help going grocery shopping. Yea it would be nice if it were more but I know its not.