Same Old Wagon Wheel Part 7

[ThisDayForward]

Part 7

[ThisDayForward]

Hope everyone's Xmas was great. PON is struggling. Lots of vacation time. Trying to focus on kids and ignore rejection and pedi things (wife DVRs dr Phil divorce episodes)

My W completely ignored me the entire Xmas. It was tough but I stayed as busy as I could with kids

[MrBond]

So again, what can you do in your power to change the dynamic?

[ThisDayForward]

Well B I think the biggest thing is Gal after relatives leave.

I do feel like I have to start standing up for myself (txting men etc)
I don't know what I'm so scared and afraid of here.

Not sure i can change her or stop her from recording dr Phil divorce episodes.

I could not let it bother me and believe it or not I'm over it,.

I do feel like if I confront her about txting men she'll act like a giant baby EVEN if I try to approach in non attacking way etc.

She also signed up for 30 bucks a month yoga class and went once. Feel like saying use it or lose it

I think the biggest dynamic change would stop being a puzzy, confront, but don't react.

My s tells me today mom never comes With us anywhere anymore. Sad

Here is something laughable she is out at the movies with the neighbor she doesn't like and accused me of having affair with

[ThisDayForward]

You got me thinking B. I want to change the dynamic.

I feel like catch 22. DB says to ignore their behavior but part of me wants to say when she is short or ignores me "did I do something to offend you etc"

Maybe that isn't the right choice of words etc

Also I guess I might of slipped up over break from pursue perspective.


We were txting and she brought up her stress and anxiety.

I replied back and said "we could take baby steps and start talking and communicating etc.

She didn't reply and ignored me. Not sure if that is perceived as pursuit but I tried planting a seed and I think I backfired

I can tell you this she is so miserable.

[ThisDayForward]

It just really seems she has her heart set on D and can't pull trigger. So no matter what I do even with all positive changes she is just waiting for me to screw up and/or snap.

I really don't know what I can do to change dynamic.
Honest to god I feel she goes is going to counseling just to gain strength to leave me. She has told me this

All I know is it can't go on like this forever. The kids are noticing.
It is beyond frustrating that there is no effort .

I feel she wants me to confront her so she can have excuse to bail .

[MrBond]

It's been almost a year. Why are you still concentrating on her?

[ThisDayForward]

Well not fully concentrating on her. Yes I'm frustrated and getting tired of the lousy treatment. I guess this is where GAL is crucial . I do feel like a coward never standing up for myself and allowing my W to disrespect me with words and txting OM etc.

It hurts hearing your kids and knowing your kids notice dad has a room and mom has a room.

I'm pretty sure I'm going to fly to Philly and take that ee.org weekend .

[Drew]

Quit complaining and man up.

[ThisDayForward]

B and others how did you continue striding forward knowing your W hates you. I know you know what I mean.

Drew yeah man up. My W is waiting for me to give her a reason to leave. The situation is delicate