Bring It On 2013

[BeingMe]

Not sure I can ever do this again.

"This?" What was "this"? He had all the freedom and space any H could ever wish to have. I didn't even complain when I had cancer and he ramped up the traveling. I just want my divorce, and get on with my life. He is no longer part of it in any serious way, except financially, which I have earned keeping the home fires burning. I don't have enough insulting words to call him.

[elfie]

Is he cake eating? Controlling me? Manipulating?

It sounds like it's all of the above. These guys are nuts. He sounds so much like my H. If I were to respond I would make it laconic: e.g. "I'm sorry you feel that way" and state my boundaries regarding the friendship thing. Keep your cool B.M. You are an amazing lady. You deserve so much better.

[BeingMe]

Thanks Elfie. I don't intend to respond.

H texted me and tried to call on my cell ... guess what, it was switched off. Not on purpose. He wanted to know if he should call me tonight? Don't care. I'm still irritated at his childishness, though. If he wants to contact me he could've called the house or emailed me. I'm not playing any more games. I seriously want that divorce.

His text says he's over "non productive feelings." What's that? Sounds like he's speaking to a client or something.

If he can't figure out why I don't want to be friends, then I have nothing more to say to him, other than "give me what's owed to me, and ciao baby, you're losing the best thing in your life."

[elfie]

The childishness drives me crazy too. These men are not capable of having an equal relationship with any woman. Your H doesn't want to leave the playground yet B.M. You have given him more chances than most of us LBS have given our WAS. Your responsibility is towards your own life now. You have to claim a life for you. As for him, he will have all the time to regret what he lost afterwards. And he will, I am sure. So let him have a taste of that loss. There are not many women like B.M. out there. Take care of yourself.

[BeingMe]

It has taken a long time for me to get to this point. I have not responded to his last text yet, and I'm thinking I won't. We'll see what happens on the weekend.

[BeingMe]

I intend seeing an IC tomorrow. I hope it helps. I can't go on like this anymore.

[elfie]

Do whatever helps you preserve your sanity. An IC is a good idea. I am in the same boat as you. I am sure we will be ok in the end though
Have a nice day (( ))

[BeingMe]

For some reason, H has been really nice to me. Invited me for a bike ride on Saturday. I went ... it's been a long time since I rode on a bike with him. It was nice. I don't know what he's up to.

Got through the Astronomy presentation ... painted a picture of giant red star, Betelgeuse, in the process of exploding with planet earth safely out of the way of the gamma rays. S*cking up? You betcha! I'm not good at vocal speech, but I can paint a picture. Haha!

[braveheart]

BeingMe, its very obvious what he's up to. He knows you are serious this time and he's trying to suck you back into the drama.

[BeingMe]

I agree BH. I have no intention of going back to all that craziness. I'm just playing it cool. We can't sell the house yet, so we're going to have to live under the same roof for a year, at least (he's in the basement). Then I graduate, and if we still can't get anything for the house, we'll rent out the top part, and I'll continue with my plans to move to the city where my daughter and grandchildren reside. Yay!