Help & Advice needed please Thread 2

[Tallula]

Um, wow. HUGS!!

And, yes, all about your son!! Authorities, probably. That would put this kids at 12, so this is not some little experiment.

Oh my.

[Mach1]

I agree Mach - I have kept a journal since BD and everything is dated etc.

I think counselling for him would be a good idea.

Nothing is more important to me than my Son (including our marriage) I just wish she could see the pain this is causing him.

Thank you for the advice.

Intact....

I can only imagine your pain, and the fears that come along with what happened, and hearing him tell you about it....

Try to step back a little though, and try not to allow your emotions to take over here. Be realistic, and absolute in what you do.

And please...

Do NOT let the fear of hurting your marriage, keep you from doing what is best for him....

[Intact]

Thank you Tallula and Mach - I promise my son is my only priority here.

I just feel exhausted from it, meanwhile my W just wanders off to OM like nothing is wrong. I'm a little worried about her mental state at the moment too.

[Breakdown]

Haven't initiated contact with my W for 3 weeks now but nothing really seems to be changing - it doesn't seem to have had any effect. Is this long enough to judge it on? Should I start mixing it up a little or just continue with the route I'm on?

So here I am back at square 1 - but her inability to see the damage and pain this causes our son astounds me.

I just feel exhausted from it, meanwhile my W just wanders off to OM like nothing is wrong. I'm a little worried about her mental state at the moment too.

Intact, do you see a pattern?

Do you think you are taking care of you first?

If you were already D'd, how would you want yourself to behave? What would you be doing differently?