What are all the LBS doing for Easter? What about the rest of you?
I am going over to MIL house for an Easter feast with ham and all! Going with W and D3.
Happy Easter to all!
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
Still on moderation. Can I get this removed? Its been forever now!
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
You're still preaching. Listen, we all know the stats, we all understand how depression works, etc. so you don't need to teach us anything. The problem is that these are things you desperately want to tell your W to get her to understand. And the bottom line is that she doesn't want to hear it.
So instead you bring all your stats and theories on here and people end up getting tired of it and don't want to hear it either.
Look, here is what you should do. If you think your W is depressed to the point where she's suicidal (which she really doesn't seem to be), then talk to her doctor or talk to her about it. That's all you can do. You can't force her to do anything. Just tell her you're worried about her and that's that. You can try to check to see if she's a danger to herself or others, but that's all you can do. Period.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Mr Bond, I have been thinking about the suicidal thing. I guess you are right, my wife does not seem to be in that kind of danger. So I will leave her to deal with her own depression, unless she confides in me about it there is nothing I can do.
Gabbysmom yes the therapist is having the MD at the office write the prescription. Thats where I think its a little odd because the MD has never met my wife. So its strange that he can dispense these drugs and take the word of the therapist. In any case, that is how it works and there is nothing I can do about it.
The stats I posted were interesting to me. I am sure we all understand the effect of divorce on a childs perception of what being married means. The last timd I brought that up, the tbeory was challenged so I thought I would post them for those who didnt believe it to see. As 25 pointed out, MWD mentions the effect on children and how they can frow up to be a WAS when they see it unfold in their own childhood. I feel it is important that we, or atleast I, not forget that. I was hoping my wife would break the cycle in her family, but now my focus is on my daughter. She HAS to break the cycle!
I have been doing really well with my wife. Been getting along very very well. A little lost because I dont have goals at this point. Well there is a goal tbat wife initiates touch but thats it.
Need to re evaulate the approach. But first, easter feast! Cant wait!
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
Hi everyone. Just got back from easter feast with the in laws. Had a great time and had some awesome food.
I will try my best to not preach or teach from now on. Mr Bond is is dead right! Its not that I feel I need to correct you, and he is right that you all know the facts (not sure why or how I offended people when I originally stated the facts). It is more that I am venting my frustration. Mr bond is right, these are things that I actually want my wife to acknowledge, not all if you.
Anyway, I will try to move on now, and not have an outburst like that again .
Been thinking about being the father figure in our relationship. I see some behavior rhat I need to change. The question is, do I start changing it now during this touchy time? Or do I wait for more stable time, after a reconcilliation if that happens.
The reason I am not sure is that maybe it would bw a negative change at this point. For example, I try to solve my wifes problems too much, kind of like a father. If I stop that now, wouldnt she feel I am abandoning here?
Not sure. Its tough to try to change something that is part of who you are and perhaps part of what my wife likes about me. Its just that I have come to feel she is acting out like a teenager.
Been thinking
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
Hi everyone. Just got back from easter feast with the in laws. Had a great time and had some awesome food.
I will try my best to not preach or teach from now on. Mr Bond is is dead right! Its not that I feel I need to correct you, and he is right that you all know the facts (not sure why or how I offended people when I originally stated the facts). It is more that I am venting my frustration. Mr bond is right, these are things that I actually want my wife to acknowledge, not all if you.
Anyway, I will try to move on now, and not have an outburst like that again .
Been thinking about being the father figure in our relationship. I see some behavior rhat I need to change. The question is, do I start changing it now during this touchy time? Or do I wait for more stable time, after a reconcilliation if that happens.
The reason I am not sure is that maybe it would bw a negative change at this point. For example, I try to solve my wifes problems too much, kind of like a father. If I stop that now, wouldnt she feel I am abandoning here?
Not sure. Its tough to try to change something that is part of who you are and perhaps part of what my wife likes about me. Its just that I have come to feel she is acting out like a teenager.
Been thinking
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
Journaliing.....just finished reading the threads of another lbs whos wife was in an affair. Lots of good advice trom starsky and others that I think fit my sitch. Good stuff.
It sux when the poster didappears and there is no continuation on the thread. Wanted to know what happened....
About to work out now. Working on biceps today...my favorite!
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
So I just got a call from wifes concerned childhood friend. She told me she asked wife if she is open to reconcilliation. Apparently wife said 'I dont know how when I am in love with someone else'
Not sure what to make of that. I mean I know its pretty much basic affair stuff. She feels lust and believes it love. She told her friend she doesnt know if its a forever kind of love.....
Doesnt change my approach. Still working on being the husband only a fool would leave!
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
Wife gave me a hug today, unsolicited. So now my goals have been reached.
Im struggling with the goals thing. How do I re adjust my goals now?
Need to dchedule more coaching sessions soon as I really have no direction rght now.
Saturday night im going toba house warming party on my own. Looking forward to it. Its a group of people who are very laid back and a lot of fun.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
