Tomorrow is a new day, but tonight I've got a stone where my heart should be.
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M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Thank you for the support. Just struggling right now more than I have in a while (on the inside, nothing outside). I'm sure it's just cyclical.
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M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
No doubt the cycles come and go. Once I had the breakthrough of realizing what I could control and not control, I had such a great ride and then out of nowhere it hit. Fought it hard to get back on top and a few weeks went by before that next drop.
It's super hard not to let that drag your marathon down. We all know this is no sprint and you've got to just grin and bear it with sometimes it getting the best of you and that's ok. Plenty of us right there with you.
Trying
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
W called me this morning from the grocery store and asked if there was anything I needed or wanted that she could pick up.
WTF?
I'm waiting for the "come sign the divorce papers" email (because she won't tell me that in person or over the phone), and she's offering to get me groceries?
What is this? "I'm divorcing you, but what can I get you at the store?" Feeling guilty? Trying to make nice?
My sister says W has no sense of boundaries and that I need to set them.
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M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
Boundaries are extremely difficult to come by right now from the Mrs. I'm working overseas this week and haven't gotten to connect much with the kids and finally did this morning and she's taking my time talking with the kids to vent about her mom (doesn't matter the topic, but it's her venting to me....you know the guy she wants to divorce????).
I find it hard sometimes and that I think she's cake eating, but then it's a double edged sword because for too long I didn't listen, I wasn't there and now she's reaching out to me to have me lend my ear and I want to demonstrate I can.
I wonder if your wife is offering to get you groceries to then drop off divorce papers? Hate to think this way, but I'm waiting for my wife's attorney's comments this week also.... what a fun week!!!
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
I doubt that is the case. I have class on Monday and Tuesday nights, and all the other nights I come over to see the girls and tuck them in, so she knows I'll be there regardless if anything needs signed.
I'm not really spending any effort to mind-read, I just don't get the "I want to divorce you, what can I pick you up from the store?" line of thinking. Maybe it's just guilt.
Any thoughts from any ladies?
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M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
I'm in the habit of offering to do things for my WAH still, though not as often. I'm nurturing by nature so it was hard for me to let him fend for himself.
