My journey... at a fork in the road...

[uRworthy]

I am feeling better. I had to go to work today. I got "voluntold". My boss said yesterday, "I am going to be here at 10... what time will you be?". I told him that I was going to be at church at 10... I said I would be there right after church was done. I was very calm yet assertive without being a dick. A smile in my voice.

Good for you. Me thinks your dick days are behind you.....LOL!
Ok, I refrained myself. I could have had a lot of fun with that one.


So, I went to the shop after church. We went down to the transit garage and did the job. Then I treated myself to a Sonic banana milk shake.

Hmmm, banana wouldnt be my choice. More of a strawberry kinda girl.

I am regaining my humor back in droves. I love to make people laugh. It is also a great way to make a point across.

Me too. My strange sense of humor has gotten me through a lot of tough times in my life.

I have to get back to polishing my moral compass...

Very funny!!!! Are you mocking me??? LOL!

[labug]

Sonic milkshakes 1/2 price after 8pm...my summertime indulgence.

[Mach1]

So you worried yourself down the Rabbit hole and back...

Like I said the other day...

She isn't saying anything that you didn't already know, just in different ways, depending on how you react...

So how do you want to react ?

How do you want to present yourself to her ???

What values do you want to instill for yourself, regardless of how she responds ???

It isn't what happens MrC, it is how we respond to the adversity surrounding it....


You are giving her way too much of your power this weekend buddy...

She is driving your emotions and fears, creating anger within you, and you are allowing that to happen....

Nothing has to happen today, nothing is gonna be broken today, nor will it get fixed today...

Let this go, until you are ready to pick the load up


Cool ????

[MrCAS]

Mocking you? No. I know better than to do that, uR... I want it to look good.

[MrCAS]

I want to react in a humorous yet straight forward way. I want to talk to her in a way that will remind her of me 10 years ago when I was a funny and confident man.

I am going to move forward in a proud and dignified manner and take my lumps like a man regardless if I like it or not.

I get the feeling she knows exactly what she is doing. I believe she is trying to push my buttons because she knows which ones to push. I have not responded because I am not going to respond in a manner she would expect based on my reactions from the last four years.

The answer can wait until tomorrow or Tuesday.

Yesterday was a crappy day. It wasn't just her stuff that sent me down that rabbit hole. Man, the view from down there is just awful...

[uRworthy]

Mocking you? No. I know better than to do that, uR... I want it to look good.

Oh good, cuz even though I am 5 feet, I am still from New York, ya know? LOL!

I want to react in a humorous yet straight forward way.

Hmm, be careful not to have expectations. She might not be ready for humor right about now. Just sayin...

I get the feeling she knows exactly what she is doing. I believe she is trying to push my buttons because she knows which ones to push.

No mindreading now, ya hear? But past actions can affect the present ones.

Yesterday was a crappy day. It wasn't just her stuff that sent me down that rabbit hole. Man, the view from down there is just awful...

I bet. So, you arent going to go down there again, right?

[uRworthy]

Yeah, never mind the tire tool behind her back....

You crack me up....but that is not my weapon of choice. Just sayin..


How are you today, M?

[MrCAS]

Well, tire tools are more prevalent in the City than 2x4's are...

I made the mortgage payment today. I have no idea what to say to her. She made a MAJOR financial decision that is going to affect me with no discussion what-so-ever... and says her parents are okay with it? Huh? I really kind of doubt they said anything like that.

I just really want to lay all my cards out on the table. Tell her everything that is going here. I just don't want it to sound like a pity party.

I sent the letter off to my former employer. I applied for another job, as well. I am getting my stuff ready to pack back up. I have some major funds coming in July that will tie me over for at least two months with no work. I just don't anticipated being out of work that long. I will do just about anything to make things work for what is best for me.

I had another 180 episode at work today... several in fact. The boy helper is on his third week of wearing the ankle sprain shoe and really limping around. He has shown no improvement at all. Just limps around like the walking wounded. I said nothing. No faces. No comments. Typically I would have done something but it isn't my worry now.

Then this one guy from the other company was working in the back... and whistling. Poorly. Whistling drives me insane. Totally insane. So instead of getting snotty, I went and did something else. It wasn't worth the effort to get upset about it.

Today at the UPS customer no-service building, I had to ship a package off to Canada. There was no one at the window... So they have these really cool terminals now. So I fill out all the stuff... woman finally appears after I call for five minutes... who informs me that I can't use that one for recipient accounts. Oh, OK... So she hands me a form and I said it doesn't look right... She says it the right one... Now, I have been sending these decals to Canada for over five years now, mind you... I get the form all filled out and ask for the Customs declaration form... She says you need a different airbill for International shipments... Grrrrrrrr... I told her it was International... I told her it was the wrong form. So I re-did everything. Never lost my temper. Never said a word. I didn't feel the need to be right.

So, any suggestions what to say to W?

[uRworthy]

Hey M, let you in on a little secret. Mach and I have a kinda unwritten rule that he gives out the 2x4's on here. Sometimes, though, I have to break that rule.

I prefer a pretty pink hammer. Hey, I am a girl after all.;) LOL!

So, I am a little confused regarding the house. Why is she the one to make the decision? And can you speak to her about it or email at the very least?

I guess regarding laying it all out on the table. What is your motivation there? Would it serve you well? Would it go with the kind of values you would like to convey moving forward?

What is it exactly that you want to tell her?

Good on you for the 180's. Makes life much more pleasant, doesnt it?

Although that UPS thing might have pisssed me off a bit. Just sayin.... Just kidding.

[MrCAS]

The UPS thing? I mark that up to being UPS and South Carolina.

Motivation? There are things she doesn't know... The youth thing... The extent my father was a putz... Not sure what it would do telling her. No one ever really knew about a lot of things because of the shame involved.

The house... Well... Here is something I was thinking...

"Regarding the house. I apologize for not getting back to you sooner but I wanted to consider what I was going to say and what my position is and not have it made in an emotionally charged manner.

I honestly don't think that was a decision for you to make alone. You and I both own the house and your decision is going to have long range ramifications that will affect the both of us. To that regard, I believe that this should have been discussed together and a joint decision made.

yes, I agree that walking away from the house is the easiest thing to do. What I have learned is that easiest is not always the best. Sometimes working a little harder has much greater rewards.

There are options available to us. There are sufficient funds available for July's payment. I feel that further discussion is necessary on this matter."

or something to that effect...