Hello gurlz got this today from xh in response to my forwading his mysterious letter
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It arrived here yesterday. Many thanks for forwarding it. (If I manage to find out why they put your address on it, I'll let you know.) They say they have some royalties to hand over to me
Hope everyone's having a nice time there. The weather has been - shall we say, interesting - but that can be a relief from the dullness of yet another day of sunshine.
Looking forward to seeing [son and gf]. Haven't heard from them recently - no news good news? I wonder if they've decided on spending their southern time in X or Y (OW's other home). Both are on the menu. I expect they'll probably go for X, which I find paradisical (is that a word?); even pre-lapsarian, for the serpents do not all crawl on their bellies.
Hmmmm playing at Mr Nice Guy. Son and gf have made it quite clear that they are not going to OW's other home, so do not know why he cannot grasp that simple fact. And they haven't been in touch because they want to tell him in person they are engaged.
Am I supposed to be delighted that he finds life without me so wonderful? I have decided to ignore this email
Bea, Ignore the email. He is just rambling, but he's also fishing. He's trying to find out where your son is and if they are in ow's town. I think he was trying to impress you a bit about the royalties, i.e., hoping you would respond back. He may be clueless, but he also knows how to manipulate a conversation to try to get info.
Bea, enjoy your weekend.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He knows where his son is - with me, also one of his other sons, with wives, gfs + another friend. A full house and everyone having vacation fun. We are 250 miles away from him and from OW.
So he is in a freakin bit of paradise. Good for him.
Good advice to ignore him. He has a bday coming up and I think he is hoping for a bit of attention.
An older man in MLC is truly pathetic, and convinced they are making up for lost time. Talk about entitled. From the email that my xh sent you would never guess that one of his grown up children has virtually no contact, my youngest son is going to see him to try and build some sort of relationship and i have seen him once in the last three years.
But 'great' for him he is on OW2 and believes he is in a little corner of paradise He is over 60 and you might think he would have learned some sense.
Our marriage was not unhappy - in fact form my perspective it was exceptionally happy. In eight years he appears to have learned very little except how to p*ss off the people he used to love the most!
Your xH hasn't heard from his kids for awhile, but "no news is good news"? I'm so glad to learn they make rose cololred glasses in bifocals, Bea!
For me, one of the most pathetic things was my 60 year H's 58 year old OW threatening that if he does not hurry up and divorce me, she is going to find herself a new boyfriend. Boyfriend. Really?
Sorry Bea. I agree with Snodderly - ignore him. And maybe his birthday too
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Bea, I have heard many times in the real world that the older they are when they enter into mlc, the more pathetic they are. It's true when you think about it...look at how they behave, dress and try to be younger people again. They become the jokes of the town and people begin to talk about them and laugh about how they are behaving. It is far worse for those that are "older" than the younger ones in the 40's and 50's.
Bea, he's never taken the time to truly look within. He's always had an ow hanging around him. If he had about 6-12 months of being on his on w/o the companionship of a woman, he might finally look within.
I'm truly sorry he's not learned anything and continues to p@ss people off.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He has said to me that he cannot be on his own, and once admitted that he knew he needed to be.
I do not think he will ever look within. In fact his being at the wedding will embarrassing for him as so many people remain totally p.o'd with him. And it isn't going to be a big wedding. Oh well, I am having a nice time with my kids and their friends.
