That's true Barb - however I suspect the honesty was the liquor talking. I'm thinking sober Valerie would have kept her mouth shut about that on the first date - but heck who knows and I didn't stick around long enough to find out!
So tonight is my 4th date with Ms. Vicky. Our first three outings have been very low key and basically learning about each others lives. She is a very nice person and we seem to have similar values. She is a lawyer and has four kids 3 of whom are in college and one graduating from high school this year. What has been missing so far, at least for me, is the chemistry thing. While I would love for it to be there instantly on the first date it doesn't have to be and that's why I'm continuing to see her. However, I am hoping it presents itself soon or I think we will simply be stuck in the friend zone.
New to the picture (yes it's still "raining women" here in the DC area - so if nothing else I am getting my money's worth on Match) is Lauren and Barbara (unfortunately it isn't the previous Barbara). Lauren is pretty damn attractive and a very active woman who loves to travel (all of which I like). She is currently out hiking in Jackson Hole, Wyoming. She wants to get together sometime next week once she returns. I don't know alot about the new Barbara as she has just contacted me, however her profile speaks to several things that interest me so we shall see about setting up a first get together.
This weekend I am heading to "The Big House" and no I don't mean prison! Taking my two lovely teenage daughters to Ann Arbor, Michigan to see the University of Michigan Wolverines play football. I haven't been to a football game there since I was a freshman in college so I'm pretty excited about it! Heck perhaps I'll get lucky and run into Beth my old college girlfriend and we'll fall madly in love and I can bid my final adieu to Match.com!
Whoo wee, looks like I've missed out on all the fun again. Damn. Too bad work just keeps getting in the way of my posting. I'm so glad I get to leave on Friday for a few days. I'll need it.
BA, LOL, you sure do meet some interesting chicks! I swear to God that you are the most open guy I've ever "met" and you sure get an A for effort. For the record, I hope you run into Beth too. I think we'd all be less tired for you.
GG, happy belated birthday! 52 sure isn't going to slow you down!
Hope you have a good trip back to Ann Arbor. Akron? Really? What a blow out. Who put that on the schedule? It's like playing the Little Sisters of the Poor! I feel sorry for the Zips... At least you won't have to worry about biting your nails?
I'll toast to you, though, on a volleyball court. It should be a good weekend for it - good teams and good matchups. Unlike last weekend. D19's team blew out 3 teams and then had a massive surprise from a Canadian team. This team had just seated their team the Tuesday prior and nobody had ever played them, let alone scouted them. They apparently walked on the floor and the coach groaned - the average height of the front row was 6-2. NOT an ideal matchup for a bunch of DIII teams. (That's more along the D1 height.) As D19 says, when you're 5-9, it's hard to hit through a wall. They wound up having to play really smart defensively to beat the team in 4. She said it was a real challenge.
BA, if I ever thought I'd move home, you just killed it for me. It's hard enough here. I just don't want to compete in a land where the ratio of women to men is still around 7:1. But at least it's good for you. Just remember, those odds make the women do goofy things to attract the hot peacock on campus...
Check ya'll later. I've got to go deal with a mess and let everyone know that there is one Chief in this tribe. Me.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Well, all, I'm dealing with some massive flooding here and the 7 leaks sprung in my office since yesterday are a little disconcerting. I've never seen so many roads washed out. It's amazing. I just hope D16 and I can get out of Dodge tomorrow.
On top of that, last night I got a text from Sweet Stuff after 6 weeks of no contact. He wound up calling when texting got too much. I'm still trying to figure out what the deal was about, but I've made the decision to continue my own path without him in the dating picture. I've told him that we can be sports buddies, but that our ship has sailed. We're supposed to have dinner next week, but I may nix that depending. I don't know depending on what, but we'll see. WTF?
What is up with these people?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Hey Betsey - sorry to hear about the flooding, never ever a fun thing. I hope things dry out soon!
Sounds like SS is hanging on to some loose ends there. However it also seems like you've made it clear that any further interaction will be of the strictly platonic/friend variety. Just recognize that some people will nod their heads while receiving that message but never actually absorb it into that space between their ears and think any interaction provides the opportunity to go back to what once was before. Hopefully he's not one of those.
So my date with Vicky on Tuesday was nice. She was about 30 minutes late due to DC traffic and felt bad - but I put her at ease about it and told her not to worry as in this area that can be more the norm than the exception. We had dinner and talked for about 2 hours. Still not much of a romantic vibe there an I really think that this will end up in the permanent friend zone. We shall see.
Barbara and Lauren are on hold until next week when I am back in town.
I'm muddling through today with my eyes on tomorrow as I will be heading to my happy place - Ann Arbor, Michigan! My daughters are soooo excited about the weekend (as am I!!)
I'll put a shout out to GG. She lives and works in the Boulder area, which has been heavily affected. Stay safe and dry, my friend.
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Just recognize that some people will nod their heads while receiving that message but never actually absorb it into that space between their ears and think any interaction provides the opportunity to go back to what once was before. Hopefully he's not one of those.
BA, I think he is. I had to reiterate my position several times, which is why I am hedging. I'll take the weekend to figure out what I will ultimately choose.
Thanks for the heads up.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Shout back to you, Betsey... All is well here, but NO SCHOOL today or tomorrow. :)The flooding is ridiculous! My bff and I went to see "The Butler." I highly recommend it and it better win some awards. What a wonderful journey through some pretty tough times in this country.
I'm headed to therapy in about an hour. It's time for a tune up for me after a crazy summer of dating and the finale of the car guy. I read these blogs, listen to webinars, read books and I still just don't get it! I have a terrific life with a ton to offer someone; so why is it so hard to find someone decent to date who shares my same values and interests? I can usually get one of the two, but not both. Sigh.... I hope she has all the answers.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Such crazy stuff going on. Thinking of all of our Denver/Boulder friends. I saw the blip about the fire on the news but not a whole lot more. Not feeling all that whoopie. I think it is my allergies. My head is heavy...yuck.
Be safe everyone.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
My bff and I went to see "The Butler." I highly recommend it and it better win some awards. What a wonderful journey through some pretty tough times in this country.
GG - Thanks for the recommendation on this movie. I was hoping it was as good as it looked in the advertisements on TV.
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I'm headed to therapy in about an hour. It's time for a tune up for me after a crazy summer of dating and the finale of the car guy. I read these blogs, listen to webinars, read books and I still just don't get it! I have a terrific life with a ton to offer someone; so why is it so hard to find someone decent to date who shares my same values and interests? I can usually get one of the two, but not both. Sigh.... I hope she has all the answers.
Please pass along any words of wisdom she might have to offer because I am clueless on this as well. The dating pool has not been kind to decent, mentally stable, financially sound and physically fit guys either!!!! I'm about to call it a year and just ask Santa to bring me someone special at Christmas!
BTW - what did you do for your birthday? Hope it was fun!
I saw The Butler 3 weeks ago & it is one of the best movies I've seen in a long time. Well worth checking out.
GG: I had missed your posts about car guy. That's a disappointment. Shoots down the theory about ow meeting them in person is somehow better than meeting online. I liked that Dave you were seeing. Never understood you giving him up. But then - I'm not in your shoes.
BA: sometimes feelings develop over time - not everything is instant chemistry. I'd give her a bit longer before deciding she's not the one.
There seem to be mixed feelings here on how soon to. Say NEXT. When I got back into dating - I decided to stick with each one until I knew for sure that I'd reached a deal breaker. Even if I really didn't feel anything much at first. It usually became clear in a couple of dates but even Josh & I hit a couple of roadblocks on the early months. I had to step back & really analyze our R. I realized that sharing mutual values & goals was more important than if he didn't phone when he said he would (although I did set him straight on that one too). I guess I'm just saying that even if someone doesn't move at the pace you would like them to - that you still consider them for a bit longer - not everyone "falls" at the same time. So it's good to try longer rather than consider it a waste of time & energy.
Thinking of my Colorado friends. We suffered severe flooding last Spring. Still sorting out the damage at my dad's cottage. Hope it gets better soon.
Barb, Dave couldn't step up and pursue me. I gently let him know I needed more than a text once a week asking what we were doing on Sat. night. He didn't know how to plan anything and I became the 'alpha' in the relationship. When I planned a hike he couldn't find the trail and called me up whining. I had to go meet him and drag him to the trail. I'm looking for a MAN this time around. I was the "mommy" to my xh and this time I want a guy to step up! Car guy can totally do that and planned the most amazing/fun dates ever! But, his values and mine just don't align. I mean, c'mon no dentist in FOUR years?!
BA, Well, of course I played golf for my birthday!! I'm swinging quite well these days, but don't they always say you play your best golf the day you rest your clubs for the season?! If the monsoon lets up I'm supposed to play tomorrow. The courses are so green; never seen it like this! As far as therapy.... She could sense my frustration and said I probably need to take a break and do some introspection. I would agree. We looked over the "menu" (lack of a better term) that I wrote when I took a love coaching class back in April. Now, I admit it's a 'tall order,' but not impossible. She asked that I choose my top 10 priorities and imagine him sitting next to me. Sigh.....no real magical ideas from her, but it helped to talk out my frustration at being single at 52. I think it's just hard because we know ourselves well and we're not willing to settle on things that really matter to us.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
I'm thinking sober Valerie would have kept her mouth shut about that on the first date - but heck who knows and I didn't stick around long enough to find out! 
