kdog. it's been awhile since I posted on the boards. this piece is valuable:
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! �Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Good video. Even though we know it, watching it play out like that makes so much more sense.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I went to the Saturday night church service since I am attending my first Meetup hiking event tomorrow morning and would have missed the service.
The message was on dealing with difficult relatives. The main points were- Reconsider your expectations- God never promised a perfect family Refill your grace tank- It's what keeps families working, we all fall short and need forgiveness Reserve judgment- The story is not over and your history does not have to be your future. What kind of relative am I? I know I can use a lot of work in this area, which is where my changes are coming in now.
I went up during prayer time and forgave my mother in law with the help of a prayer minister. It felt good to let go of the resentment. I don't want to harbor ill will toward her or anyone. The minister mentioned a book called "Forgive to Live" about the physical effects that holding a grudge have. I am interested to read it sometime.
All in all, a good evening. Going to hit the weights and elliptical now and then take my German Shepherd for a walk.
Thanks for stopping by.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Your church service message reminds me of a friend of mine who was a pro-athlete...out of no where his body system began to attack/eat away at his muscles. He had to leave the team, nothing the Doctors did helped. One day he heard a voice say to forgive his father, he had a lot of resentment built up inside of him b/c his father wasn't there for him growing up. He forgave his father and his health went back to 100%. He definitely believes in the power of forgiveness.
Hope you enjoy your Meetup event today!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
Thanks for stopping by Mimi, I hope that I feel that same kind of release as well. I feel a lot better than a few weeks ago for sure.
Meetup even went really well, I got some good pictures of deer, meant a group of interesting people, and had fun with a bunch of fellow hikers. We went 5.6 miles, so got some good exercise in as well.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
How do you answer her email? Don't. Accept it for what it was.
I learned that not all emails or texts need to be answered. If you really feel the need to answer... a smiley ( )or a simple "Thanks" works. I would not get into a long drawn out response.
Remember... 180's... change what you would have done before.
�Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out� ― Art Linkletter
)or a simple "Thanks" works. I would not get into a long drawn out response.