I went to the dinner and kicked A$$!! It was awesome. Came home to find out my dad had been analyzing/judging my sitch with my D19 during a visit to her college. Not cool. But, that's another story.
I hope your night turned out alright.
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Aa, no need for facebook or googling h, it only serves to remind us how much we hurt and hurt for them. I find myself almost doing this at times too, then I remember how awful I feel afterwards. No reason to put yourself in more of a downer!
Heather is right, he is cuckoo for cocoa puffs and NOT who you remember him to be. Leave him to his strange little world in the cuckoo clock...tick, tick, tick...
I hope you are doing ok today.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
I have been planning my move, which still doesn't have a confirmed date yet, but...
I am missing my ex more and more. I did look at his twitter and fb page, but all it told me was he is still living in a fantasy world. There is nothing there of him. Sad.
But my new dilemma is when to tell him I am moving. Before of after. part of me doesn't want to see him, deal with him, as he is. Part of me is terrified I will never see him again. And the big IF is... would he want to see me and the dog anyway?
Just when you think you are moving on something pops up and bites you on the a.. This thing just doesn't go away does it.
You miss the old him and he is not that person anymore. I have to keep telling myself that as well. It is so hard to see them change into something you don't like anymore.
As far as the moving, I say do what feels best for you. If you just need to move and not tell him til afterwards then do that. Sometimes you just need a break to save your own sanity. I'm sorry this is so hard for you right now.
I agree though, just when you think you are doing so well, something else comes up. We are in for a long haul so it won't go away for quite a while. When it gets this tough, take it one thing at a time and remove the bigger picture from your head.
Try to do something nice for yourself today. Sending positive vibes your way Aa.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Sorry your here, but this is the place to get support. Please pick yourself up today. As for checking his FB/Twitter, just don't. The only thing you do is hurt yourself further. I finally stopped checking W's FB and Instagram about 6 weeks ago. With help from great folks on here, I've come to the understanding that W is not the woman I met 20 years ago. That woman is gone forever. The sooner you accept that and stop "bumping into memories" the quicker you can heal.
Loving thoughts coming your way today.
JF
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
JF and Pudmuddle - it's taken me a while but I appreciate you dropping by, I have made a few decisions and had a lot of unwanted thoughts, but it would seem I am heading in the right direction.
I visited my C today - as we were talking he stopped, looked at me and said "I feel like I've been hit by a ton of bricks" I looked at him????? He said " for the first time since we met (a year ago) you are talking about what YOU want to do, how you are going to do it and looking out for yourself"
I am stressed with all that is going on, but have I reached a turning point? I hope so.
Because we run on high stress all the time it's hard to see our own progress. I would agree with your C, sounds like you have made a tremendous turning point for yourself. This is really all about making a better you regardless of the outcome.
I am so happy that you made some decisions for yourself. I hope you post more so we can help you move along and work things out.
We're here for you!
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Pudmuddle and Heather -thanks for the vote of confidence.
I find it hard to post here sometimes - so many of you are going through such difficult times with your MLC'er, and it is hard for you to recognise if there is any improvement or change in them. But they are still in your lives.
Despite it only being 16 months since my BD, I have no hope left for a new relationship with my ex. He ran so fast and hard he married the OW.
So, all of you, even when they are horrible and spewing just remember you still have a connection, you can continue to stand and DB. And one day you may have the choice in continuing a relationship with you MLC'er.
Forgive me, for I am having me own pity party here today.
I can cry at the slightest thing and don't want to do anything...
Problem is I have lots I have to do. And there in lies the problem. I know I am quite capable of doing all the things I need to do, its the having to do them.
I miss the man and the relationship I had with him. Today I feel very alone.
