There are times when I wish my family didn't know as much as they did but living with my dad meant that he knows pretty much everything. And of course that means both my sisters do as well.
At least they haven't tried to interfere at all.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
lol MH I don't tell my mum anything, which is why she has to search her memory bank for something nasty to say. I have been thinking about it though and I think I'll just mention next time does she think that is how a Christian behaves. oooo my computer is making funny noises, I hope it doesn't pack up on me
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
lol NQ I need an answer to this text that H sent me. For the mo I'm ignoring it, but I know he's going to be sending even more texts if I ignore this one. I know what I'd like to say, but that's the not polite version, lol. here it is - I was thinking of what you can say to your mum. We have to sell the house to pay off debts before they force a sale and we get less. But you could say that you really don't want to leave but you can't afford to buy me out. You could ask if you could move in, she would soon help you out lol. Just remember someone who can spend 90 thousand on a garden is not hard up and it's about time she dine something for you. It's becoming desperate now so we have to sort it out soon. I know how my mum would react if I said all this and it wouldn't be very pleasant. I'm going all cold just thinking about it. My mum is of the old school where no-one gets in debt. These debts are not mine but H's. I could just ignore his text, but he'll probably get in touch again.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Stay strong, TTD! Heavy stakes here. Might have to make it clear to him he will not force you into selling house or asking your mom for help. He seems to be being manipulative/stubborn on this issue. We got your back, but sadly we can't tell him for you.
I hate it when they try to apply pressure. That's a tough one.
You've not had the advice centre appointment yet, right? Could you tell him you're going to be talking to someone this week to discuss your options and that you'd prefer to wait until after that meeting before talking to your mum, or to him. You don't need to go into detail about the who or when, just that you're not making any decisions or talking to anyone else until after that meeting.
Maybe post your response to him on here as well before sending it. We can offer our opinion on it then.
Stay strong. You can do this!
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Thanks MH and NQ You're right MH, he is being manipulative and stubborn. Talking of horoscopes, H is a Taurus and they are supposed to be stubborn. I think I'd go with NQ's response, but for the moment I've decided to ignore him. I'll wait to hear from him again and then I'll say - "I have made an appt for this week to discuss my options and I won't be speaking to you or my mum until I've been." I know he brought it on himself, but I still don't like to think of my H hard up and desperate. I was thinking when I get my benefits on Tuesday that I'll pop a bit of money into the joint account for him. Not much though as I've not got a lot, but my mum is sending me a cheque this week to cover my Christmas shopping
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
