HUH? you are going to give him money? HUH? TTD, are you the same TTD that kicks me in the rear when I need it? Okay, MH and NQ are both correct but you cannot and should not give him money. When I tried giving my W a couple of nice things in the beginning I was appalled at her reaction....
Will giving your H money bring him back to you? Will it STOP his attempted manipulation of you and your Mum? I have read many times where you mention how he brought this upon himself. So you thinking about bailing him out even a little makes no sense 2 me....What he is doing is so WRONG in many ways and I know you are better than that!
lol thanks 2old I need that 2x4 You're so right I've got a lot of counselling, advice and mentoring going on this week so I'll be getting help in dealing with him that I need oopsie, I forgot to put my mobile phone on charge today hehehe
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Thanks F Glad to know I've got all this support on here You're all right you know, I was just doing it to get him off my back. I guess that's why I've got women's support in place for me. I need all the support I can get this week And I will spend the extra cash on my son that I was going to give H, that's a done deal
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
And do something nice for yourself. One of those little things. A coffee, at the coffee shop? Pedicure? Whatever makes you happy for a bit. And no thinking about the sitch while you do it. You have your assignment! We expect a status report.
You've got it MH and I always get my assignments in on time Though sometimes they've got errors on them or I need to add a bit to it, lol. Hopefully this assignment will be right first time
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
TTD180, you know my view, but I have to put it up here. I agree with all the others, this is your H's journey. He needs to pay his bills and get himself debt free. He cannot manipulate you or your Mum to help him out. Your journey is for you and your son, your H may rejoin later. Giving him money is not going to make that journey easier for you.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Thanks HWA I realise that now and I will get help next week through various help I'll keep you all posted as to what they say and how I go about it
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well MH, I'll complete my assignment tomorrow I'm going to have a facial wax I won't be able to think of my sitch during the treatment as I'll be too busy pulling faces, lol. I can feel this moustache growing on my upper lip, even though I can't see it I'll feel a lot better after it's gone My first lot of appts start tomorrow - the college mentor and IC. Looking forward to it
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
You're so right 