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It's funny you should say that. I don't avoid mirrors or cameras anymore. I was in San Francisco earlier this month for a conference and one of my colleagues took a picture of me on the ferry without me knowing, and I was actually smiling. Smiling without being told to! Imagine!

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Ride that wave and make it a new you buddy smile


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"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can."
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LeftcoastLBH,

Just want to say I've been there, that hollow feeling. I,ve read many things, am big into meditation have learned tons. That hollow feeling sometimes is the idea something needs to be a certain way that your mind has made up. I'm not saying that's the case in your situation. What I'm saying is be cognizant of the many things it can be. The loss of an idea, the loss of something you were really attached too. Try to see the other side of the situation if possible.

Believe me this journey is not for the faint of heart. You will learn things. Sometimes you will be drug kicking and screaming but you will learn things or you will regress.

I heard a saying once that is always with me. "Your home is your journey, and your journey is your home". Now think about that.

You are doing great, but don't be afraid to do greater.

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Oh for Pete's sake. I sent her the registration tags for the car in the mail since she refused to meet me to hand deliver them, and I sent them via certified mail using her maiden name (because a) she sure doesn't feel like Mrs. [lastname] to me, and b) I thought she would appreciate that.) Apparently you need ID to get certified mail or something? So she just messaged me with this horrible tirade, assuming I did it on purpose and calling me "sick" and all this horrible stuff.

It was an honest mistake! Why does she need to make an ugly situation uglier than it already is? Why does she still hate me so much?

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It's not you she hates, She hates something and is not figuring it out.

Guess what? You happened to be in the way.

Move yourself out of the way.

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Lefty, why did you do that?


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Why did I do what?

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Send the mail with other than her legal name


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Because I honestly didn't know it would make a difference and it doesn't feel right to address her with my last name.

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Besides, she's been using her maiden name on all non legal documents since January.

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