Put the gift under the Christmas tree, along with all the other gifts. So she wasn't aware. The gift is from Santa, but she will know. I expect or hope a reply will come once she has time away from family.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Thank goodness no expectations. I think what some people regard as friends I might regard as being a bit more. Things have possibly changed in the last 24 years. :-)
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Thank goodness no expectations. I think what some people regard as friends I might regard as being a bit more. Things have possibly changed in the last 24 years. :-)
I suppose being asked to come over to her house and she visiting mine, along with some very heavy and intimate discussions. Hugging and kissing. It certainly seemed a start. Then all of a sudden a text stating we are only friends and a drop in contact. So doing DB techniques. Acting as if. I am ok with it, it was nice to feel needed and wanted for that small time. It makes you feel alive again, no wonder the WAS can do it.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Isn't it funny what thoughts come through your mind at times. I was just sitting here reading someone's topic when I thought: my position in this sitch is like the WAS. While I haven't done anything to resemble the WAS, it is just the way that everything is still the same for the W not me. Someone was talking on their topic about the kids visiting their Dad for an hour on Christmas, and that is what happened to me. The W is the WAS but also having the cake with everything. She gets the family, their attention, their time, she gets treated like nothing is wrong and I am treated like the one who is going through MLC or something.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Hey HWA, Sorry to hear about your lady friend, it obviously wasn't to be At least you'll still remain friends as that's how you started out. It's not always the case that the WAS gets everything, my H didn't see my son on Christmas Day at all. He went round to see him on Boxing Day and stayed over. H even asked me if he wanted me to bring our son back the same day and I said no that's fine he can stop over. Next year it might be the other way around, H might have our son on Christmas Day and me on Boxing Day - who knows? He's not having him at all on NYE as he plans to go to London to see the fireworks and sleep in his car! Anyone would think he was in his 20s not his 40s! lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Ha ha TTD180, I did some DB on the lady friend. Didn't text her for two days and then a small text and bam, all ok again and she is fine with everything. No expectations wins out. She was simply very, very busy and maybe the text doesn't portray feelings or emotions that well. Anyway, whatever happens will happen. Been out again tonight. Last night went for a ride and dinner. Tonight another ride and spent time at a new eatery/market place with some friends. Tomorrow another ride up in the mountains. Monday morning going to see "The Hobbit" with S21. Like is looking and feeling good. I wish I was able to do this months ago.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
That's too bad about her but that's what dating is for. Connect, have fun and move on. You need to do more of that and less looking for love so move on and find another one
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
2s2q, absolutely will be doing that. Simply enjoying each day more.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Well lady friend and I had another deep and meaningful, along with stupid, 4 hour talk on the phone. Lots of discussion about things that may or may not relate to me and/or future as a couple. We are spending some time together tonight and tomorrow night for NYE. Even going on a bike ride with others on NYE morning. Again going in with no expectations and using DB techniques works so well. And it feels quite good doing it. Not to mention it takes my mind off the sitch (not that I think as much about the sitch). Went for the ride in the mountains yesterday with another good friend on our bikes. For those in the know, got rid of the chicken strips. Come home drenched in sweat as we had a very hot day, to jump straight into the pool. It was that hot, the pavers around the pool couldn't be stood on even with wet feet from the pool. Then a lovely storm later at night. Life is good.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
At least you'll still remain friends as that's how you started out. It's not always the case that the WAS gets everything, my H didn't see my son on Christmas Day at all. He went round to see him on Boxing Day and stayed over. H even asked me if he wanted me to bring our son back the same day and I said no that's fine he can stop over. Next year it might be the other way around, H might have our son on Christmas Day and me on Boxing Day - who knows? He's not having him at all on NYE as he plans to go to London to see the fireworks and sleep in his car! Anyone would think he was in his 20s not his 40s! lol.