No chance with the talking to the X. X and I have just recently gotten to a more civil place-mostly because I think D13 asked him to be civil to me. He and OW are both kind of similar; he's got control and anger issues...so I can give D13 advice or whatever but that's about it. You are right though, I should remind her that she can stand up to OW, but she mostly just feels like it's easier to just go along with whatever they are wanting from what she tells me..I mean she has to live with them half the time.
Just had a great weekend with the kids. D14 is in the Peter Pan play at her middle school. She got the part of Nana and then when another child had to drop out, they gave her the part of the Crocodile too. I can't wait to see it in 2 weeks! So anyway she had rehearsal Saturday and I worked a couple hours OT (ok that not so fun) but then we painted sets after her rehearsal me and the middle school girls. And then the kids and I went to see Catching Fire which was better than the first one we thought. Then shopping.
Spent an hour or two socializing with my next door neighbor also just divorced and her middle-school aged son and my D14. We're becoming good friends which is nice. Then church today. Taking our dog to the most beautiful day at the park--78 and sunny. Dropped D20 off at a college social he WANTED to go to tonight; a movie and Walking Dead thing--he is Asperger so it's encouraging to see him wanting to socialize.
Then I dropped D14 off at X's new apartment. Very strange, but he moved this weekend, and even though engaged to OW practically since the divorce he did not move into OW's house, but moved into an apartment near his office and D14's school instead. So when I dropped her off he had to stand outside as D14 had never been there and didn't know where the apt. was, but OW has to stand there with him, which was just weird the 2 of them standing there very grim-faced. And I had to get out as I had D20s 50 lb. backpack and D14 was carrying hers already. She panicked when she saw me walking toward them and grabbed both of them and said just go mom, just go like she was afraid I would start something or whatever-as if I am not the most peaceful person in the world...poor kid...anyhoo awesome weekend...now I just have to clean up the entire house.....
I'm also in Florida right now for 2 months. I agree - what a glorious day!
I was in Peter Pan when I was 13. I was one of Tiger Lily's Indians (because it was a dance part. I loved the entire play.
I can relate to the OW stuff. She was out there because she is SO insecure. She has to make her presence known. I remember my D's grade 8 graduation. OW insisted on driving Ex right to the door even though she was not welcome to attend. Ex had lost his licence. There was no need for her to drive right up. It made my kids really uncomfortable but she insisted on making her presence known. Good on you for not making a scene! I learned early on the hold my head up and just walk away.
Karen, glad to hear that you had a great weekend! Your kids are simply wonderful. I love how they look out for you.
Your ex is just as strange as ever. I give up on trying to figure him out. So we will just keep focusing on you. Is work going well? Any activities just for you? Big hugs dear friend. We need to catch up again soon.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
ok I definitely try to be the better person. I definitely had the thought when OW was standing there staring at me, that I was kind of half expecting her to next lift up her leg and pee on X, and mark her territory like my lab likes to do...
Work is same old, same old. I like it, but don't know if I want to do it for the next 15 years. Maybe I'll transfer to another office or something. One of the perks of my job is I can transfer pretty much anywhere in the US so once the kids are grown, I really would like to do that!
The kids are going to Bike Week leaving Friday so my next door neighbor and I are planning to go out. She's just divorced though, so it's probably going to not be a wild and fun time, but still will be a grownups only so I count that as something.
I forgot to share something fun: my first love; who I dated the year and a half before X, facebook- friended me Valentine's evening. Isn't that sweet? I will have to get my nerve up and message him or something I guess, but I'm too chicken right now. He could be married for all I know... Karen
I agree. He wouldn't have messaged you on VD if he didn't want a reply. The longer you wait the more rejected he may feel. Even if he's married, the contact will boost your self-esteem and doesn't have to be inappropriate. Do it!
Oh yes - send a reply. It's totally harmless. If he is married - just get an update then wish him well. But if you don't find out - you could miss your chance
Karen, even if it is to catch up, you should message him. Let him know that you are rarely on FB and start chatting! You deserve the world after all you have gone through. Start writing.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
