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[bluesgal]

Hey Paul-Just caught up on your thread again. How are you feeling? Will your wifes things being out of your home make you feel better or worse? Hope your D16 is doing ok. Sounds like a rocky R with your wife.

[paul19510]

Journal. Great workout this morning. Great hockey dsy yesterday. Doing as much as possible. Still sometimes the tears come from out of nowhere. I get mad about that. I don't understand it.

Blues, its ok having her things gone. I does feel strange in a way I can't explain. There was a slight feel of sadness when i saw thst she had finally emptied those last few drawers with her spring and summer clothes in them. Not sure i understand it so i will just feel it.

[Wonka]

(((Paul)))

One day at a time...so trite, but true. I hope you are taking care of yourself with some self-care stuff...hobbies, going for a walk, or going out for a beer with a buddy.

Tears will come and go in waves. Just go with the flow and not resist. Tears are a part of the emotional clearing out.

[melissag]

Paul, you are doing great. Yes, the tears and the bad days will come . . . but overall you are getting stronger and happier.

I have someone coming over tomorrow to help me pack up what is left of H's stuff and put it in the garage so he can pick it up when he wants.

This whole thing [censored], but we will get through it, and there is a great life waiting on the other side. ((hugs))

[paul19510]

Thanks wonka.

[paul19510]

Thanks M. How is you situation? Havent head much. .....

Also, i am finding that just like having a D in process doesnt stop the pain...having a casual friend doesnt either. Although i am beginning to see that people should not treat each other the way my W treated.me. she is helping me understand more about compassion, caring and being a good friend. I lost a little of that in all of these years with W.....

[paul19510]

Have been getting emails from W about kids school stuff and bills. She sounds blech...lol. the farther away i walk, the less i want to actually hear from her about anything. Its usually complaints about the way i am administering things at "home base" (my words).

I just want to get thru this process.

[paul19510]

Well W finally changed her relationship staus on fb to something other than M. I changed mine too. It seems that changes are moving faster now. Although they don't hurt per se, i notice them. Its like watching a movie of my life sometimes. I also see thst she's getting confirmations of changing address on some of her things. This is all part of the process.

[Wonka]

Paul,

Yep..one brick at a time in dismantling the M's foundations. I am sorry that you're experiencing this. I can understand what you're going through at this time. Not fun right now. In time, you'll learn to smile again.

[MamaB]

I'm waiting for the FB change from my H too Paul. I'm glad that you are not hurting from them and are somewhat detached.