Oh was I slow to wake up this morning. Sore, sore, sore....one of my boys and I lift weights on Mon/Wed evenings due to every other day being full and he put me through the ringer last night. W goes sometimes and went last night. Not sure how to take that she has started riding in the back seat (several times now) so she doesn't have to be near me? Thought if she didn't want to be around me she wouldn't go with us at all. Small talk on the way and back, stayed on opposite side of gym, and very pleasant at home when I was within earshot. She even sang the chorus to a love song on the radio during our drive but quit part way through (I think she realized what she was doing)? Mixed signals are hard to get used to and I have to force myself not to read to much into it. Definitely not on my what I want to be thinking list so I'll have to add to track changes.
W-37 Me-37 M-16yrs & 5days W "Done" Day = Valentine Day 2014 D-8/13/2014 S16 S13 S11 D8
Ok i need advice. Yes I've been a horrible H! My kids are awesome and love their mother dearly as I do. Our M history has me buying mother's day gift every now and then (nothing last 2 years at all). The books say no presents while they are pulling away but yes she has been an amazing mother that deserves to be recognized. Knowing I will have to buy gift, do y'all think she will assume I'm buying her something and pull away further?
W-37 Me-37 M-16yrs & 5days W "Done" Day = Valentine Day 2014 D-8/13/2014 S16 S13 S11 D8
Honestly because I was an @ss. We usually fought every holiday due to my internal anger issues I always had. I did have moments of clarity before my mlc and ea where I showed my love. She knows it was always me that ignored special occasions. Lamest excuse I ever used was "you're not my mom". Also why me buying 2 valentine's gift was such an amazing achievement for me like I said previously. But since v- day was her breaking point cuz we ended up fighting that night it's the latest memory she has. It's why I'm scared
W-37 Me-37 M-16yrs & 5days W "Done" Day = Valentine Day 2014 D-8/13/2014 S16 S13 S11 D8
Here is concrete advice. Instead of questioning all the things you've done in the past, right or wrong...why don't you discuss your relationship with a Divorce Busting coach. Focus on what you want out of your marriage, for yourself, and your family. You say that you think you've been a "horrible husband", learn what you need to do to change yourself and watch the relationship change. Call me to discuss our DB Coaching program. 303-444-7004.
Roberta, Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004 Roberta@divorcebusting.com
Then do a 180 and give her a card. Tell her that you appreciate her being a great mom to your kids and was just too dumb to not acknowledge it before. Tell her you appreciate her very much and how the kids are made special from her efforts.
Maybe give her a photo frame with the kids in them.
But don't overdo it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
