I am now so jacked up with MountainDew that I can't sleep at the moment! All before a 2-day long training session. Not smart of me.
To answer your question about FIL's email, I'd ignore it. It doesn't require a response. He does not get to interfere with the legal stuff between you and W. If he really, really wants to talk with you or whatever, he'll do it by email or some other channel. What I think is happening here is that W is apparently unhappy with the way things are proceeding and b!tched to her father. In other words, sic'd him on you. Not cool.
Now on to the D stuff. Has your L responded to W's L on the proposed settlement?
Hey K! I'm so curious to know was FIL wanted. Hopefully it isn't anything negative, but yes, he should have give a bit more of a heads up on what he wants to talk about.
Hope all is well with you!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
Unfortunately I can't satisfy your quest for knowledge on the FIL matter.
I emailed my attorney and asked her to contact W's attorney and request no further inquiries/emails from W's family.
My lawyer also was following up on where we stand with my counter offer. That was Wednesday, still waiting to hear. We never did set a mediation date or a court date though, we only kicked around dates.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Finally got word, W rejected proposal, but did not state what about said proposal is unfair. I am asking my lawyer to follow-up tomorrow to ask what points of contention are. I imagine it's the house, but trying not to read her mind.
She's been out of the house 7 months, clearly has somewhere to live already, only lived in the house for 2 weeks when we did move in to it, has not paid any part of housing expenses since October, and has not maintained the house at all. Crazy.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
W refuses to state what the objections are apparently. I requested my attorney calls her and ask what the main points of contention are. Apparently that didn't go well because I just got the "when can we go to mediation?" email from my attorney. The available dates listed happen to be within 2 days of W's birthday, so I think that's pretty apropos.
My offer was more than half of joint property awarded to her. W's attorney is a family friend and does not typically do family law. It's apparent that they don't know a fair offer when they see it. Hopefully the mediator will explain that, and I won't have to eat crow on that statement in a few months.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
I'm in a bit of a conundrum unrelated to the divorce. I work for a big organization and periodically people from other lines of business come sit in and shadow our job function to see if they may want to transition to other areas of the company. I had a young lady sit with me a couple of weeks ago, and it was evident to both of us that there was instant chemistry.
She is in a 3.5 year on and off relationship, where she lives with her boyfriend. I know we have already had an emotional affair, nothing physical has happened. She keeps saying "We're just friends" but we meet for lunch, and outside of work, and of course she won't tell her bf about her new "friend."
Last night, I called her and said she needed to figure out how she feels about him, because I respect her and him and don't want to be a home-wrecker. I left that call feeling a bit down, but had a good rest of my evening. This morning, she texts me again saying "can we be text buddies for just onnnneee more day."
I mean it's obvious she likes me, she admitted if she were single she would like to see where a relationship would go. I already tried to do the right thing and break it off, even under the guise of "friendship" because I know it's an emotional affair, if I'm not allowed to text, and she can't tell her boyfriend/friends/family about me.
Should I just be firm on my stance? How would you approach it still leaving the door open for the future? This woman is pretty incredible so I don't want to be mean about it at all.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
I say you deserve better than to be a "text buddy".
Let her know you like her but your don't think it's appropriate to continue to have lunch, text, etc... If it did become something more, you don't want to start something off on a bad foot...and I am sure you wouldn't want your girlfriend to do that to you.
If she is not happy in her relationship and is truly interested in you, she needs to put on her big girl panties let him know and not play games w/ either of you. Until then, I say take the high road.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
