Never make someone a priority when they make you an option...
I agree. She needs to do something about the BF situation before goofing around with you. I think you did the right thing. Also, IMO, in-office romances are not always a great idea. They can end very poorly.
I wish you well with mediation. I just finished mine a couple of weeks ago and am signing my D papers in the morning. Mediation didn't go exactly the way she had hoped. She should have taken my original offer...
Keep the faith, brother!
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
I broke it off on Friday night. Haven't heard from her since. I do feel like I took the high road by doing the right thing, but it still bites since it was the first woman since BD that I felt a real connection with. Ah well, the search continues.
As far as finding a new church, I've just been watching the one I was going to online. Much smaller chance of bumping into anyone in my office!
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Agreed about the in office romance, however I work for a 20,000 person company, so chances are we would never bump into each other unless we tried. My brother in law works at the same company and I've never seen him.
Thanks for the well-wishing with the mediation. I think W can't possibly wrap her head around my offer being fair. I mean I'm the devil incarnate according to her mother, so I couldn't do the right thing. I've sent her half of all the joint accounts already, and haven't cheated her on anything. It's just too bad she can't acknowledge I'm nowhere near as bad as she and her family are making me out to be. I hope the mediation goes well, and we can come to an agreement without going to court, and with me keeping the house I pay for and live in.
I'm glad to hear your mediation worked out in your favor, I hope I can share a similar story after May 22nd (which happens to be W's birthday, I'm sure she thinks I had something to do with that date too, but I didn't)
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Did I mention it's her 30th and she's a birthday celebration fanatic? Like last year, she and her family celebrated 5 times. Apparently I was the outcast because I thought that was excessive and strange. Also, 0 of those 5 involved me being able to take my wife out to dinner, their plans always came first. What fun times.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Mediation went as well as mediation can go. If anyone thinks that they are going to go into mediation and come out like a winner, they are fooling themselves.
Not sure how it works in TX but here in MN the mediator's duty is make sure it is fair. My mediator explained things. I came out okay. It would have been far worse than if I had gone to the Judge.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
I'm not going in thinking I'm going to "win", no one wins in divorce. I'm just hoping the mediator will confirm that what I've sent is half. We'll see how it goes I guess.
In the next 3 weeks, I'm working on slimming down so I can be looking fit and muscular. I kinda stopped focusing on working out as much, and let my eating get out of control somedays. I'm trying to shed 10 by the mediation date, as the mediator said we could potentially do a "joint session" where we're in the same room. Luckily no family or friends are allowed to come.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
