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[Georgiabelle]

Paul,

I'm glad your d is doing better. It's nice to hear an update from you. Sending you positive vibes.

[paul19510]

Life is continuing on. I got s storage locker for W's things thst she said she wants but hasn't moved. I told her about it and gsve her a key. She protested and simaid that no one should move her things but her and her friends. Yet she hasnt come for those things. I pointed out its been over 7 months and as she stated she' s not coming home. I gold her i have other things i want to put in place of whst she says she tsking.

She isnt giving me a time when she will come get her furniture. I am comfortable with her coming in and spending alot of time her picking over things. She won't give me a list of what she says she wants. She just says almost everything in the house is " mine" which is not true.

I gave her 2 weeks and then said i am going to move items to the locker thst i know are hers from b4 we married. After that..i dont know.

The nieghbors told me she mentioned she doesnt understsnd how things got to where they are now.....ugh.

[pilot]

If your W said not to move the stuff, I would think moving it would just enrage her. Leave it alone unless it was causing an issue in your home. Besides, if she wants out, make her do the work. Just my opinion.

[labug]

Life is continuing on. I got s storage locker for W's things thst she said she wants but hasn't moved. I told her about it and gsve her a key. She protested and simaid that no one should move her things but her and her friends. Yet she hasnt come for those things. I pointed out its been over 7 months and as she stated she' s not coming home. I gold her i have other things i want to put in place of whst she says she tsking.

She isnt giving me a time when she will come get her furniture. I am comfortable with her coming in and spending alot of time her picking over things. She won't give me a list of what she says she wants. She just says almost everything in the house is " mine" which is not true.

I gave her 2 weeks and then said i am going to move items to the locker thst i know are hers from b4 we married. After that..i dont know.

The nieghbors told me she mentioned she doesnt understsnd how things got to where they are now.....ugh.

Me and my questions...what's driving the need to move her stuff now?

[paul19510]

Pilot thanks for checking in. Great feedback. Bug, w keeps talking about how "mist of the stuff in the house is mine.." she wont list what she wants and she has stated one offs like....well the bedroom is mine and the couch...and the dining room set. So i found sales to replace her stuff with my own. Now the sales are past and some of things i like are sold. I will find others...but tired of limbo. And having her dangle it over my head is beyond old.... I want my own life and to not have her "stuff" in my space for me to take care of. There has already been a couple of spills and stains on things since she left. Its just life....but i cleaned them up. I no longer want to be concerned with hers vs .mine. Shes not coming back. I am not a warehouse. My 2 cents.

I cant fit 2 of everything in my home and since shes not coming back she should move her things and be out of the way. Make sense?

[Maybell]

Why not set a deadline -- it must be out by x or it's craigslisted?

[labug]

But are those things really hers? Have you agreed to that?

You have to be careful that whatever you do is legal if in fact it is hers. Has your atty weighed in on this?

I can understand wanting it gone but for now, it's saving you money, right?

[BonitaL]

I agree, set a deadline make it workable like 2-3 weeks. Then tell her she either needs to come get it and put it in storage, I think they run about 75-100 a month. Put it in writing!! I agree you are not a warehouse or storage. She either takes what she wants or it's yours, or the Salvation Army.
I told my H he wanted to take certain things, others he wanted to leave, I said whatever you don't take that's yours will go to the curb!

[paul19510]

Hi bug. I agree eith msking syre all was legal. I checked with my atty because i have the same question. It is legal to move those items to a storage as long as we both have access. We do. I gave each of us a key. I agree it saves money, but what is difficult is that she continues to hold this over my head. I am no longer willing to do that. Bonital, rented the storage for 120 per.mo. that was for a 10x15 room. Big enough for the couch,table and chairs she says she wants.

There is no going back to where we came from. She is gone. What confuses me is that she is not helping me move forward at all. She is just sitting. She is the one that walked out and doesnt want this. I am on the same page now so lets go....my 2 cents

[labug]

You want it gone, move it and let it go.

How is she holding it over your head? Let it go.

You're getting there, Paul.