This board is such a godsend. I don't know how other people make it through the day without a virtual advisory board like this place. I'm allowed to delve into the most minor of irritations, and the big ones, and work it all out knowing someone will call me on BS or support me when I need it, and then I can move on. The little whatever-it-was is not just forgotten, not just avoided or repressed, but worked through and healed. I've been weaning myself off it compared to the really horrible times at the beginning of my sitch where it was literally a lifeline for me, but I still find so much value here. Thanks to everyone who posts.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
hi adinva, i have not read all about the above situation.. but was wondering if there are feelings under it all.... about sucking it up... that want to be felt and dealt with.. maybe you went here earlier in your posts.. take care
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Feeling panicky tonight. I spent the entire day on the project of our stupid fridge. Turns out to be a bigger repair than its worth so off to three stores. Online and on the phone then back to two stores with s14. Chosen fridge doesnt fit so back to square 1. But the near-purchase had my heart palpitating. I have to bite the bullet because we have no food now. It will take 1/4 of whats left in my savings that i took when i started my own separate bank account two years ago. The roof leak repair next week will take another fourth of it. Im down to not very much. And that makes me so mad at H for leaving us.
I posted a bunch of stuff for sale on craigslist, and i really hope i have a job soon. I would rather figure this out and be ok on my own than have h come back. But im mad and im scared and i still have to buy a stupid fridge. And staying up all night just makes everything bleaker.
I guess you could say im more mad at me for getting myself in this mess. H is who he is and theres no point being mad at him for not being part of a loving two income household.
Itll be ok. Im going to charge the fridge and make sure i try harder to get a job lined up. I'm going to take care of myself by sleeping. I'm going to count my blessings and remember there are many worse off. H offered to pay for the whole roof repair but we are supposed to be equal on the house stuff so i think i should still pay half. Stupid leak, stupid fridge. It'll all work out i'm sure.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Blessings: Xanax S14 and S16 asleep in their beds and 100 lb of dogs in mine to cuddle with Coolers and ice, a convenience store, canned soup. Craigslist Hope, talents perseverence Friends who will listen to whining, sometimes. H not being as bad some other peoples' WASes, sad to say.
It's not as bad as I implied. Gnite yall. The right next steps will be more clear in the morning, they always are.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Fridge saga is complete. Feels good. I wasnt seeing debt as an option, and i'm not happy to have it but in this case it made perfect sense. I also used Bug's advice and went for the cheapest acceptable instead of stretching for the cool water button. No i will probably never upgrade it, dont tend to want stuff until i have no choice.
H is going to pay the whole roof repair, so both my crises are deferred.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
