I do think she is possibly seeing someone, kind of makes a R tougher. I'd think that I am the father of her kids and with all the positive changes I'm making that it would count for a whole lot.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
In the WAS mind, your changes mean squat in the early stages of DBing because their scorecard is pretty darn long and it will take A LONG TIME for them to accept that those changes are consistent & permanent.
I've heard a few things from my kids and mutual friends/family. They may just be friends.
My W and I spent about 2 hours together last night, most of it at our kids gymnastics class. She did come over to my place and stayed for a bit as well, another huge step. She was definitely not concerned with keeping me at any distance. In fact she was within a foot of me the whole time and touched my arm/hand many times as well.
She may be coming over tonight as well. We for sure are planning a birthday party for our daughter tomorrow.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
Kids are how old? How reliable are their "tales"? Exactly. As for friends, what do they know?
Pay no attention outside chatter.
Pay attention to what W is doing through her actions. That is where the focus needs to be squarely on. Gosh, a few months ago, W was an icicle. Now? She's chatting up with you.
Keep going on what you've been doing lately. It is working. Hey, remember to get silly strings for your D's birthday party. That'll be a fun memory and your W will definitely feel warm and fuzzy watching you being the fun Dad during the party. Rock on!
Oh...another fun idea. Why don't you compose a fun song or ditty for your daughter with your guitar?! Hmmmmm...
Great ideas Wonka I didn't check the forum until today, they would have been awesome to try, I know my W would have loved them. I'll keep them filed away for the future.
My W did come over last night for close to 2 hours and it was AWESOME. We talked the entire time and spent a lot of time laughing, a very good sign I'd think. I heard her say a few "awwww's" when I was doing things with the kids, another good sign.
My guess is that she is very curious about me and that maybe I have truly changed. She likely is scarred to do too much too soon.
We didn't really talk about our R very much, I tried to keep it light. I maybe made a small error in saying I'd like to do more things together with her and the kids in the not too distant future. She said she was very busy with work so it would be hard for her to do.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS
I didn't check the forum until today, they would have been awesome to try, I know my W would have loved them. I'll keep them filed away for the future.