Thanks for responding to my rambling, we've actually been s since March, but living in separate houses since May. The holiday I was talking about happened around 9 years ago.

I like the saying the only way out is through, it's vvery true, and definitely s**ks.
are there any success stories that have started this way or similar? I have looked through the success boards, but even one seems to have started the db/Dr journey a lot earlier