Once again just my opinion!! Try the friendly stuff for a while, nothing harsh or mean!! what do you have to lose by doing this? At least try if you are still having feelings like you want to try and get her back.
Once again just my opinion!! Try the friendly stuff for a while, nothing harsh or mean!! what do you have to lose by doing this? At least try if you are still having feelings like you want to try and get her back.
I may just take your advice. Thanks for it.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
For the record, any backslide which comes out of this....I blame Lisa
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
You say that in jest, or maybe a little seriousness. However, you don't see your WAW every day so there is some amount of loneliness and tension on her part, which is missing completely from my situation. Touching is not tolerated at all by my W and this angry seething behavior on her part cancels out any positive behavior on my part.
Glad that your W reacts positively and flirty sometimes; I think you are a lot closer to reconciliation than you think!
Me37, W30, S7 Married 10yrs 05/11/04 ILYBINILWY 22/09/13 Disc. OM1 26/09/13 Disc. STD from OM2 03/02/14 Affair Confession 21/06/14
W and I share same apartment (for a few more days). W isn't pushing for D.
I agree with Casey. Pilot your W may just need this time to sort herself out. Your being friendly and still having some family time together <beach day etc...> is a positive. hang in there buddy, kids are a big part of your M , she may see the writing on the wall on what is best for her <that's you>. this A she had maybe still playing on her mind! She might even be thinking she doesn't deserve you! You are doing alright with your sitch! Hang Tuff
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
I actually would tend to lean a bit toward Lisa. Maybe not full on booty pinch, but a little small flirts just to gauge a little bit if what she does. And I think sometimes we get afraid to backslide or make mistakes, but in the end, there are only failed attempts or successful actions. As long as we don't push too hard or pursue too much, a little backslide is probably going to happen. Just a thought though.
Thanks guys. I would not agree that I am close to R. But who knows for sure. I get what you are saying about positive interactions and her needing this time to herself. The question we LBS always ask is just how much time can WE take. Casey as for the touching, I can pretty much hug at free will and even cuddle (I posted about this from a few weeks ago) She does not mind me touching. I just refrain from this because it is pursuing.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Sometimes pursuing and testing the waters are the same. I think that you have to test and maybe push a limit or two on occasion, especially if you are going out and being with each other. It's not really pursuing, unless you have expectations of getting so etching in return. Just use it as a way to see maybe where she is. At worst she backs off a bit more, at best it doesn't bother her and you know what you can and can't do.
I am sure you are right. Maybe I am just afraid of too much contact and undetaching. I'm gonna think long and hard about what you have said
Thanks!
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Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
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