Wife just changed her relationship status on FB from married to me to nothing.
I can't freaking breathe.
I know that I am supposed to detach and not expect anything but that hurt deep.
She's already been projecting herself out there as a single woman, no? What is this other than the junior-high-school'ish rubber stamp on what she's already been doing?
This is the adult version of a girl writing "Mrs. Jefe HEART o.m." on her middle-school notebook cover, Jefe. Breathe deep . . . you got this.
You already knew she was a WAW. She has already mentioned D and you are already separated. This is NOTHING new for you. You are just seeing it in a different format. Un follow her and stop checking up on her.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
I decided I wanted to stay on FB to follow some long lost friends. I had to adjust settings and filters so that I am not getting notifications and cannot see much of what W is doing.
The other options are to ditch FB all together, block her, or unfriend her.
dont forget to adjust the setting on the messenger too. I developed a habit of checking messenger to see if she was online. Poisonous because there is no real intel involved. It just leads to worrying, guesses and speculation.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
She's already been projecting herself out there as a single woman, no? What is this other than the junior-high-school'ish rubber stamp on what she's already been doing?
Yes, she took her wedding band off 2 weeks after she left. And yet this was still a blow. I stupidly was getting my expectations up because there had been some increased communication in a more positive format.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
You already knew she was a WAW. She has already mentioned D and you are already separated. This is NOTHING new for you. You are just seeing it in a different format. Un follow her and stop checking up on her. ~ dont forget to adjust the setting on the messenger too. I developed a habit of checking messenger to see if she was online. Poisonous because there is no real intel involved. It just leads to worrying, guesses and speculation.
I noticed it on my profile. When I went from married to her to just married. I definitely need to change the messenger because, yes, that is driving me bananas. She'll be here soon with the kids and I need to recompose myself. I already dumbly called her and asked about the status change.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
You got this Jefe. I can tell you have already calmed down some. Good for you. If the positive communication continues dont forget "no expectations"
Thanks bdub.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
I already dumbly called her and asked about the status change.
Oh jeezus . . .
We had just hung up with each other when I noticed it. I reacted without thinking and I knew this was coming since Aug 5th and it just throttled me.
OK, back to tearing my broke a$$ work truck apart. I just need to breathe.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
