From my own experience with my WAW and her mental illness, until your sister decides that she needs help there is not much you can do. I have lived thru all kinds of craziness in the last two years including a strong attempt at suicide in the spring. It was not till this past month when she finally seems to see what she is loosing that she checked her self back into the hospital and is finally accepting and working on herself.
Sorry your sister is not there yet. She will have to decide if and when she wants help. She may never.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
I'm gonna post here because I can't put this up on FB yet. BA, apparently our parallel lives will be taking on another twist this year. I'm so glad I *did* get the opportunity to see my brother last week. We mended things.
He had a massive heart attack this morning and is not expected to live. My parents have called the priest for last rites and I'm waiting to hear the update from them. So another trip to VA is undoubtedly in my very near future. I'm really sad. Sad for him, his STBXW (who has been outstanding through all of this), his 16 year old stepdaughter, 7 year old daughter, my parents, sister and the rest of our family. I'm sad for me, my XH (who has always been a big brother to my bro), and my daughters, who love their uncle. My parents are undoubtedly going to have to do the unthinkable - bury their child.
We're praying for a miracle - it's now in God's hands.
What's really weird is that the first piece of news that came across my desk this morning was about the drummer for AC/DC, who was arrested for hiring a hit man to off 2 people. The 1981 Back in Black concert was his very first (he was 13) and my friends and I took him and his BF. When I read it, I thought, "I need to call him and tell him this TMZ like news." He knows of my guilty pleasure/addiction to TMZ...
Anyway, I'm sitting here at work, waiting for a call from my dad. I'm doing all the work I can to minimize impact on everyone else in case we have to fly out tomorrow.
Hugs to everyone. I think we all need one today.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I am so sorry to hear your news. It is very fortunate that you were able to mend your fences. That will give you both a lot of peace, regardless of the outcome. I will be sending a prayer, for your brother and family.
Bets - I am so sorry to read this. My thoughts and prayers are with your brother, you and your entire family. Let me know if I can do anything for you out here in VA.
Big hugs Bets. What a shock. Yes, you were meant to mend those fences. Hopefully he will take a turn for the better so that you can enjoy each other for a while. You and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thank you all. I'm waiting for today's report, though I got one last night.
He went 8 minutes without oxygen. He's on life support and there is no medical POA. The cardiologist told my parents and his XW that it was the repaired valve (he had one replaced 2 weeks ago) that was leaking blood, and the infection has worsened. He told them that they could not do any further surgery. I guess they were going to run tests today (why? I don't know) and then make a plan. I don't know how much they can do without POA so we wait and see. He's not regained consciousness and I truly feel in my heart that he's already gone.
If they can pull the plug, D17 and I will probably fly out Sunday sometime. I'm loading all my work stuff on my laptop so I can work from their house. There is a lot going on here, and I don't want to delay progress on that front - there is quite a bit of money on the table and I fully plan on grabbing what we are offered. And then we close on the estate house on the 17th. What a total CF. But it will all work out.
So thanks for the virtual hugs. They're really appreciated.
xxoo Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Thanks for the update Bets. I have been wondering how your brother was. I wish there had been better news on his condition. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with all of you in this extremely difficult time.
