Look at different ways of validating what she is saying. People don't often argue with someone who agrees with them, validating her position will help. Remember for every conversation you are just as guilty of the upcoming as her. Hold yourself accountable and whenever you argue, try a different tactic. It's not about being right, it's about doing what's right to get the right result.
Most importantly try not to talk only to respond, try to communicate.
Talk to me like someone you love, is a book I read on good validation techniques.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Her Birthday is coming up. As far as DBing goes should I give her a small neutral gift and a card?
Or nothing?
Obviously taking her to a nice dinner is out of the question.
M44 H37 D13 S8 S6 Married 14 W is stay at home mom ILYBNIWY:9-28-14 A started 04/2014 OM confirm 11/24/2014 Admit PA 01/05/2015 09/11/2015 W file for D and wants the moon
Great question, my WWs bday is also coming up and was thinking about asking the same question, if I get her something will she appreciate it ? or if I get her nothing will she think she made the right decision for leaving me? I've always gotten her shoes, expensive sunglasses, etc.
Sounds like you need to detach. You are going to push her away if you keep trying so hard. Let her see you are strong and confident. Stop the pressure. I know from experience, it only makes thing worse.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
