I'm not leaning toward filing at the moment. But I take seriously the idea that a legal arrangement would make things easier. Excluding sale of the house.
Yes, I'm worried he'll do something financial. I recently discovered that I do have some resources of my own, and if he does something really awful I'll call his dad, who I've kept out of things. But I am anxious.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Well - I think I've said this here before - but given the amount of anxiety this seems to cause you from time to time, I would seriously consider it.
I know you've said your H has been ok with you about money.....but I dunno....he wants to be separated then he should really deal with all the ramifications of being separated and more importantly, you should get what benefits there are to being separated, and right now it seem like you don't.
Sorry - I always feel like I am a little hard nosed about this aspect of things.
Because of seventeen years, three children, four states, and a vow before God.
Also because I married him on purpose.
But I may be better off on my own.
I get all that and I'm not challenging you, but I am curious. A S agreement isn't a D. It gives you the space you need while not having to worry about the business side of marriage. I think everyone should have one from the get-go. I didn't and I probably would have had to provide support to my H. (which he wouldn't have taken.
In my state a legal S turns into a D when that decision is made.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
