So I don't know if we suppose to ignore it but its coming and I would like to be mentally prepared for it.
This year Im planning to treat myself and not be upset or hurt or angry!
Im going to wake up and start the day with my favorite reggae music, get dressed, do hair and makeup and have a full GREAT day.
I'm going to purchase myself my fav fudge. Take S14 and I out to breakfast or dinner or lunch or maybe all 3:)
I might buy myself a new tube of expensive lipstick (I LOVE lipstick)
Watch a good movie, call all my single ladies friends and tell them how I'm thankful for them being in my life.
AND if my H does ask me out of his guilt or real love if I want anything Im going to give him a dam long list of things he can buy me!!!!
Not flowers though,,,NO flowers this is how I found out about OW last year!
So LBS's how are you going to handle Valentine's day
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
I will be working. If I'm well enough, if not the day will be cancelled to spend at home with my fave puppies! They are the love of my life and it's only fair.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
I have nothing planned. It will be a normal day for me. I will say this: they do get easier.
My first one, after XW left, was awful. I made the mistake of contacting her and her response just made me feel worse.
The second one was bad, but better than the first. The third one was better. Now, it doesn't even bother me.
The first few can be really hard. Just do something nice for yourself.
My 2 cents.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Well I've still no idea where I am with w so not expecting anything there, will probably have son on sat so we'll off out and amuse ourselves maybe catch a movie and a takeaway sat night.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
S14 is asking me for ideas,,,which Im mind reading that H has put him up to finding out what I want?
So JUST IN CASE I will have H a non mushy card, and a gift of cuff links (not expensive) IF he gives me a card, I will have a card for him, if he gives me a gift I will have a gift for H.
IF not I continue on with my plan A and return his gift to store and throw out or donate the card. I could also keep the cuff links for s14 to give to H for his bday in April...
I have gotten myself 2 shirts as gifts to me cause I LOVE me, got plans for where s14 and I eat brunch (if s14 decides he does not want to hang out with me) then I have plans to go get a mani and pedi. Got movies lined up to watch. Picking up my fugde on Friday. Need to pull out my reggae CD's tonight.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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