I know you have it all in hand but just wanted to say (((((Gg)))))
Take it easy ok?
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
I dont think there is a not any more in any of this you know, not unless you dont have emotions, certainly I *should* be feeling great right now but Im not Im preoccupied on s feeling so down (which is understandable) but also concerned on w and her reactions. Or I was, did some exercises this morning to refocus myself and felt better after that.
There are only so many things we can affect or change or make perceived changes to my friend, perception and perspective are big parts of that (mindfullness) Im a devil for the "glass half empty" view and it comes of having depression its very,very easy to see that the day is full of negatives its hanging onto the positives thats the real trick.
Seems from here you need a boost, I wont GAL you ( ) as i'd be the biggest hypocritical hypocrite that ever hypocrited but what options do you have for a change of scenery or something you can really feel in control of right now?
Sounds like the same old same old is grinding you down a bit
Hang in there!
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Its ok to be got down by all this because its something that will bring you down. If it didnt then to be honest thats just a bit odd
Did you say you were going out of state to see interstate bestie? If not then maybe you should think about as the change of scenary would be good (Plus cna you imagine the gossip if it happens to coincide with cute dude or someone else being away for the weekend)
It feels like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself in an already pressured time.
What would you like to do?
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
It was a busy weekend last weekend, this weekend same. Trip to the big smoke, yes interstate bestie is meeting me.
And soooooo another spew from child by text. All abusive how I make him angry tryed to be validating and pointed out perhaps wrongly that no one makes him mad or angry but him.
And he could choose to use his anger to fix what makes him a angry. He's choosing to hear me call him a failure where I told him to just go an do what he needs to do. Sigh perhaps I'm just not good with interpersonal stuff and should become a hermit.
I tryed to say he has the tools be as successful as he wants..... Hmmm funny seems like xh1 pathetic lack of skills lack of success is rubbing off.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Well the weekend sounds good, hope its for something enjoyable (and possibly mildly gossip inducing for you ) - remember to be seen leaving in the heels for maximum chattingness
As for s, yes yes and yes. As I said when you popped by my thread children and teenagers (and some young adults) know everything, see everything, are impacted by nothing and only have bad luck they are also immortal. We adults know nothing, understand nothing and are the architects of all their misfortune. Thus it has ever been and I completely expect to experience it all in another, well, I'd say 3 years but at the rate s is "growing up" more like 6 months!
You're right but I imagine he'll need to find it out and integrate it into his mind himself, whatever parents say tend to ping off at that age, certainly did with me I know!
Take it easy matey
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Funny wants to come see his dog which he hasn't spent one min with since 31dec. Oh yeah and while I'm visiting while, your not home mum, I want my id to get welfare.
Really, rolls eyes.
Thinks I was Born yesterday. Sigh it is what it is.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
I have been distract Gg and my posting on your thread has been very limited.
S17 seems hell bent on acting like a teenager, deliberately misconstruing. He understands well enough and Gg you communicate really great so no issues there.
So what kind of heels then Gg?
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
For this weekends big trip I packed all the heels.
Wear red to start, always a good way to start. Scales say I've gained weight again kilos of the stuff. Clothes still fit so not overly worried. Think due to work at a pyscially more demanding job is helping to gain some muscles back.
Need a new thread before I go. Some of the gossipy locals will be at the show and so who cares gives them something to talk about.
Had a couple of bits of irritation really. Seems I got a talking to for repeating exactly what some one said as they Said it and the words chinesed whispered about and come back.
Funny really, then got told off slightly for saying I wasn't at work to pick up other slack and make them look awesome, my point it and was I wil, say it and will say it those concerned and to their face rather then be backstabbing pa!
Did state if they didn't have work and wanted me to find an alternative second job then I would no problem no drama. Think the brd is a bit of listen to and play into drama.
I stood up in a nice but in my way very blunt fashion (the way in which h always said was wrong) for myself. I refused to be told otherwise when I know what I said. I wasnt rude or angry which used to be a problem, when I got very worked up.
I have always tended to be calmer, but far more able to present my side and not care too much. A big plus and change. Before I would choose calm and not put my side thus back down and causing resentment.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
) as i'd be the biggest hypocritical hypocrite that ever hypocrited but what options do you have for a change of scenery or something you can really feel in control of right now?